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Pleasure and Happiness

Remez Sasson — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 10:14:51 +0000

Pleasure is a state in which you feel good and enjoy what you are doing. It usually does not last long, because life is such that you have always other things to do, like work, cleaning the house, driving somewhere, interacting with other people, etc. you cannot stay in the feeling of pleasure for long.

When you eat some delicious food you derive pleasure from it, but the pleasure cannot last for long, since you cannot go on eating indefinitely, you finish eating the food on your late and the sensation of pleasure wears off after a while. You may enjoy watching a movie, but the movie lasts for a certain amount of minutes. When you read a book you enjoy reading, ultimately you reach the last page.

As you see, all pleasure is time limited.

Pleasure is usually awakened by external stimuli, and is largely physical, involving the five senses, like the smell of good food or its taste, or of the sight and physical contact of a certain person, a story you read in a book, etc.

Though happiness is similar to pleasure in some respects, yet it is different.

Pleasure is emotional in nature, while happiness is a state beyond the emotions and even beyond the mind. In pleasure the emotion are active. While in a state of happiness there is calmness and peace.

Happiness does not depend on external stimuli, since it comes from within, though quite often, it seems as if the source is external.

When do you feel happy? When a problem has been solved, when you receive good news, when a goal has been accomplished, when you earn a great sum of money or when you are deeply in love. For a few moments you feel happy, but what do you feel? It is a state of exhilaration and peace. For a few moments, you feel as if a burden has been lifted, and you feel no fears or doubts, and don’t think about the next thing you are going to do. For a moment there are no thoughts and there is no time. A moment of just peace and happiness You just experience a deep feeling of relief, without any thinking, doubts or expectations. For a moment your mind is empty.

In this “empty state” happiness arises. It usually does not stay for long, since you cannot stay in this state for long. Your mind is not trained to be peaceful, and all the thoughts, desires, doubts, fears or expectations rise back again, hiding the calmness you experienced just a moment ago.

As you see, happiness is a state of inner peace and inner calmness. Everyone seeks happiness, when actually the search is also for inner peace and freedom from thoughts.

Happiness and inner peace come from the same source, from within. Through training one can reach a state when happiness and peace are experienced more and more often. The more one is able to free his or her mind from the compulsion to think all the time, the more one is able to enjoy inner peace and happiness.

How can you enjoy more happy moments in your life? Instead of waiting for external events to trigger happiness, you can bring it from inside you. Since inner peace has much to do with a state of happiness, the more peaceful your mind is, the more happiness you can enjoy. When you are able to make your mind peaceful, through various techniques, and through mediation, you enjoy more happiness.

For more information, and practical techniques and exercises visit:

Tips for Happiness in Daily Life
Peace of Mind Tips and Advice
Peace of Mind in Daily Life

How to Create Positive Feelings

Remez Sasson — Fri, 29 May 2009 17:14:44 +0000

What are positive feelings?
These are pleasant feelings of happiness, satisfaction, confidence and the expectation of success. These are feelings of compassion, love, tolerance and understanding.

Why do you need positive feelings?
They make you feel good, energetic, happy and able and willing to take action to pursue what you want to attain and achieve. They also make your life happier and easier, make you more likeable and improve your relationships.

How can you create positive feelings?

Below you will find a few tips and suggestions to help you create positive feelings.

1) Become aware of the importance of positive feelings and how they can improve your life.

2) Refuse to be involved with negative thoughts and feelings.

3) Upon waking up in the morning, smile and say to yourself silently or audibly: “I am going to have a wonderful day today. It is going to be a happy and successful day. I am going to stay patient and positive in every situation.”

4) Often, during the day, visualize for a few moments some happy moments and situations from your life, a place you enjoyed visiting, or being with people you love.

5) When things make you angry, wait a few seconds before reacting.

6) When you feel some despair, anger, unhappiness or frustration, don’t succumb to these feelings and let them grow. Visualize something happy, read something that makes you happy, repeat a positive affirmation or just try to create some happy feeling inside you. This might not be easy, as the negative feeling might be too strong, yet, do your best, and no matter how many times you might fail evoking a positive feeling, if you persist you will be able to change your attitude and feelings.

Read the complete article on how to create positive feelings.

“Happiness is an attitude of mind, born of the simple determination to be happy under all outward circumstances.”
- J. Donald Walters

“A happy life consists in tranquility of mind.”
- Cicero

Doing Small Things to Make Your Life Happier

Remez Sasson — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 15:51:51 +0000

You can add more happiness and light to your life, by doing some small, simple acts everyday. Though small and simple, these acts will improve your feeling and make your day more enjoyable. Even if you are under pressure and strain, or if you have problems and difficulties, there are many little, and sometimes not so significant actions that can make you feel happy. This happiness might not be strong and deep, and often is of short duration, but it certainly can improve the way you feel.

Below you will find a few suggestions for bringing small moments of happiness into your daily life. With some creative thinking you can find more ideas, which might be more suitable to your life and circumstances.

1. Wake up 10 minutes earlier in the morning, and go stand by the window or go out to the yard or garden, if you have one. Look around you, and enjoy the quietness and splendor of the morning.

2. Get up 10 minutes earlier, and make yourself a cup of coffee. Even if you drink coffee each morning, by getting up earlier you will be able to sip it leisurely.

3. Eat something you enjoy eating.

4. Call up a friend you like, which you haven’t talked with for a long time.

5. Buy yourself flowers.

6. Buy yourself a book.

7. Buy yourself a magazine.

8. Have a nap in the afternoon

9. Do something you like doing, but which you usually don’t have the time to do.

10. Take some time out when busy and read a few pages of a book.

11. Close your eyes and rest your body and mind, just for a few moments, even when you are very busy.

12. Take a break and go out to walk, even if it is only for ten minutes.

Do you have more suggestions? What do you do to bring happiness into your life? You are welcome to comment.

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Making Your Day a Wonderful Day

Remez Sasson — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 17:26:33 +0000

How do you begin your day, tired, unhappy, stressed or angry, or do you feel energetic, happy, motivated and glad to begin a new day?

If you start the day with negative thoughts and feelings, do you let them continue and grow all day long?

Do you let what people say and do affect your moods?

You can make your day a wonderful day if you want to. All you need is to make the choice to make your day a wonderful day and not allow anything detract your form your decision. It might not be easy at first, but keep trying and will succeed.

You can choose to:

- Start your day with positive thoughts. Wake up with happy thoughts.

- Don’t expect unpleasant tasks and chores, believe you can do everything easily and successfully.

- Read a few inspiring quotes before you go to work.

- Be more patient and considerate while driving.

- When appropriate, smile more often.

- Find some time for yourself to do things you love to do.

- Listen to music that makes you happy.

All it costs to make your day a wonderful day is a change of attitude. Look at the bright side of life. Look at the positive in every situation, no matter how unpleasant it might be. If people around you are negative and discouraging you can almost always get up and go, or if you cannot leave, start repeating positive affirmations in your mind.

When you make your day a wonderful day, you also makes other people’s day more happy and pleasant. Your positive vibrations influence the mind, body and aura of other people. When you are happy, you make others happy and bring light into the world. Unconsciously you make their day a wonderful day.

Songs and music often have an uplifting and inspiring affect on the moods and states of mind. They affect both the conscious and subconscious minds, and work like positive affirmations. One such song is Molly Hamilton’s song, “Make a Wonderful Day”.

It is a song to make your day a wonderful day. Listen attentively to the words, because they act like affirmations.

Listen to the song “Make a Wonderful Day”!

What do you think about the song? Did you listen to the words? Did the song affect your state of mind? Please post your comments here.

Happiness and Bliss

Remez Sasson — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 08:18:13 +0000

In a state of deep happiness the thinking process stops or almost stops, and there are no thoughts. There is inner silence of the mind, inner peace, and worries and problems are forgotten for a little while.

If you examine the state of your mind when in deep happiness, you will discover that the sense of happiness and bliss is experienced on a background of inner peace and inner silence.

True happiness is not brought about by external circumstances, events, objects or people, though they often trigger the sense of happiness or indirectly bring it about. They might make it easier for happiness and bliss to emerge, but happiness and bliss actually come from the inside, when certain factors are present.

Happiness and bliss are always here, but covered by thoughts, desires and fears. They are part of the real you. When thoughts, desires or fears disappear, happiness and bliss emerge. When you experience success, love or any positive outcome, worries and problems drop away temporarily, allowing the happiness and bliss within you to emerge into your consciousness.

Through meditation, concentration and developing the ability to calm down or silence the mind at will, one can remove the obstacles to happiness and bliss, and can experience them more often and independently of circumstances and situations, at any time and place.