You Don’t Have to Participate in the Drama People Create

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A few days ago, I came across the following saying:
“Just because someone invites you to drama, doesn’t mean you have to attend.”

This is so true, but sadly, an advice not frequently followed.

  • How many times have you been drawn into the drama someone created?
  • How many times you got too involved with other people’s problems or negative thinking?
  • How many times you felt manipulated by the drama people created?
  • How many times you felt exhausted and tired after such situations?
  • How many times you said things you shouldn’t say, when forced into emotional situations?

I daresay many times. And each time, you tell yourself that you wouldn’t let yourself get involved in such a situation anymore, but yet, you get involved again.

Next time, someone “invites” you into drama, telling you about their health and other problems, sharing their negative thoughts, worries or fears, or just criticizing or emotionally manipulating you, wait for a moment before reacting.

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Self Improvement, Spiritual Growth and Economic Conditions

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Do you think that only people who have no financial and economic problems have the time for self improvement and for meditation?

Some people do think so.

Do you agree with this line of thinking?

It is possible that this idea arose, because people who are in a better economic condition have more free time, and they want to fill it with some activity, with some hobby. If this is the case, then are they earnest enough or they are just dabbling?

Self improvement, meditation and spiritual growth do not depend on one’s economic condition.

It is true, when you are in a better financial condition it easier to afford buying books and participating in workshops. However, there are many instances of people living in difficult conditions that care about education, about improvement, and about spiritual growth, and therefore, find the means and the time for them.

The truth is that self improvement, meditation and spiritual growth do not depend on one’s economic condition. It is your mind that says they do. It does not want you to make changes and improvements, since it is afraid that this might shake its concepts and beliefs, and endanger its supremacy over you.

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Drama Belongs in the Theatre

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‘My life is so hard right now.’ ‘So-and-so did this…’ ‘I’m so worried about that…’ ‘ I’m so busy…’ ‘I’m overwhelmed.’ ‘I’m so tired.’ ‘I’m so… fill in the blank.’

Does this sound familiar? Do you identify with the drama in your life and consider it normal? Be honest. Chances are that you’ve recently uttered one or more of those phrases, or something similar.

The drama played out repeatedly in our daily lives gives us a sense of who we are. Many of us believe that it is a fact of life, when the truth is, it is not even real. Drama is an illusionary state of being, based on our perceptions, which have been shaped over time by our past experiences. It appears real only because we choose to believe it. Drama becomes our reality as a result of what we bring often unconsciously to each situation.

How does drama manifest in your life?

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Creating Changes in Your Life

Creating ChangesBelow, you will find an excerpt from an article, titled “Inner Changes Bring Outer Changes”.

I have written this article a few years ago, but I have revised it today. It is a short article that emphasizes the need for inner changes, in order to create outer changes in your life.

As with most articles on personal development, you need to read the article several times and examine the ideas and thoughts that emerge in your mind.

Often, thinking and analyzing what you read, bring you insight and new ideas, and create changes in the way you see things. Sometimes, what you find between the lines could be of great importance to you, and could bring you the ideas, plans, and motivation to make positive changes in your life.

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Anxiety and Depression: Our Internal GPS System

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“With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world”. Dalai Lama

What are anxiety and depression?

This might seem like a silly question to ask after all we are told repeatedly from various sources that anxiety and depression are mental illnesses. We are often told this is caused by a chemical imbalance.

What if I were to tell you different? Would you believe me?

This might be hard. It might be difficult to challenge mainstreams beliefs and opinions. When we are growing up, we believe what we are told from those around us. We learn to trust the opinion of those who are influential in our life – parents, teachers, the media, doctors, elders. We take these beliefs as absolute truths.

We naturally take on the beliefs of the majority, we are human.

Change happens when someone or a group of people challenge these societal norms. What tends to happen is that someone has an experience that does not fit with the messages that are shared by the vast majority. There can be a lot of controversy surrounding these challenges to the status quo.

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How to Overcome Stress and Anxiety Naturally

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There is no denying that stress and anxiety are part of everyday life. Due to lifestyle changes and numerous challenges that people go through on a daily basis, these two mental health problems have become common.

However, excessive stress and anxiety can become dangerous health problems if not dealt with early. Besides weakening our immune systems and making us prone to illnesses, they can also make a person become unproductive in life. While there are several medications that can be used to manage stress and anxiety, there are many proven and natural methods of relieving these conditions.

One of the best natural methods of overcoming stress and anxiety is through meditation. Meditation is the practice of emptying the thoughts in the mind. This helps to clear your mind for a couple of minutes and achieve a state of inner calm. However, in order to achieve better results, you need a quiet, clean and peaceful room with a natural setting.

Developing a positive mindset is another outstanding way of overcoming stress and anxiety the natural way. A positive mindset is considered as the practice of developing positive thoughts. Creating a positive mindset involves changing your perception of a negative situation by repeating affirmations, positive notes, prayer or visualization. To develop a positive mindset you should place positive notes in places where you can see them frequently.

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Do You Play the Blame Game in Life?

The Blame Game

Do You Play the Blame Game in Life?

Does everyone around you make your life a living nightmare? Do you hate your job, dislike your marriage, and have more debt than you ever wanted? Life is so unfair sometimes, isn’t it?

…Or is it really life?

If you’re the type of person who often thinks about how bad of a life you have, and the hits just keep coming, it’s likely you play the blame game. The blame game is when you blame everything and everyone around you for what is wrong with your life.

Of course, you can have a million reasons for believing it’s everyone and everything around you that makes life so difficult, but the reason your life is difficult ultimately falls on you. I know it’s not easy to swallow, but bear with me.

Think about your life. YOUR life right now depends on what everyone and everything does to it. You are a victim.

You are continuously hit, and while you believe that you are trying to avoid the abuse, you’re just not able to get away from it. You continue to feel the pain everyone and everything inflicts on you.

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How to Overcome Self Destructive Behavior

Why do we do things that cause us harm?

We’re pretty rational beings.

We want to be happy and healthy.

We’re wired to live, survive and thrive.

We know better.

Yet we continue to overeat, smoke, drink excessively, shop compulsively and engage in a variety of other activities that are detrimental to our health and wellbeing.

Why?

The answer may surprise you.

The Development of Self Destructive Behavior

Internalization of a Negative Belief

Self destructive behavior typically starts with a negative belief about yourself. You aren’t happy with the way you look. You don’t think you’re intelligent enough. You don’t feel worthy of love.

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Don’t Allow People and Circumstances Control Your Life

Do you allow people and circumstances control your life, moods, and state of mind?

How do you feel, if your boss criticizes your work, or tells you something you don’t like?

How do you react, when a driver enters recklessly, and without signaling, into your lane, in front of your car?

In these and similar situations, do you, keep thinking about the incident? Do you get angry, unhappy or frustrated?

This happens to almost everybody, almost everyday. Just think, how many minutes, and often hours, you spend every day, dwelling on what this person said and that person did. If you take these incidents too personally you become unfocused and inefficient at work, at home, at everywhere else.

We let people and circumstances control our life, if we let them affect our moods and state of mind.

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