People Judge You Like They Do A Book, By The Cover

Written by Bob Garner

I’m sure that you’ve heard the old saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover;” however, according to book publishers, that is exactly what we do. Book publishers will tell you that your cover design is one of the most important decisions that you can make when creating a book. The reason is that research has proven that when making a decision to purchase a book, most people spend about 3 seconds looking at the front cover and about 7 seconds looking at the back cover. Maybe they will flip through the book quickly; nevertheless, if they like the “look” of the book then they will buy it. Some may flip through the book to see of there is any content – but most don’t. They purchase the book based on its “look.” Strangely enough, people do the same thing with you; they judge you by your “cover” – your image.

We all create an “image,” in people’s mind. That “image,” can often be quite different that we have of ourselves. Yet, other people’s image of us may be more correct. Yet, their image is more correct. Why? Because it is sometimes hard to see ourselves as we appear to others and that appearance is, usually, more aligned with the “true” you. (We are just “too close to the forest to see the trees.”)

For example, you may feel that you are a good person, a hard worker, and a good and trusted friend who is always fun to be around; however, others may see you as a person who is insecure, who gossips, and is whiny.

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Quotes on Patience

I have added a new page to the website, with quotes about patience.

Here are a few of the quotes:

A man who is a master of patience is master of everything else.
George Savile

You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.
Franklin P. Jones

Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Patience is something you admire in the driver behind you and scorn in the one ahead.
Mac McCleary

A wise man is superior to any insults which can be put upon him, and the best reply to unseemly behavior is patience and moderation.
Moliere

How can a society that exists on instant mashed potatoes, packaged cake mixes, frozen dinners, and instant cameras teach patience to its young?
Paul Sweeney

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Complete Those Unfinished Projects

By Andrew Leigh

Seeing a project through to the end is a brilliant way to give ourselves a feeling of true achievement and satisfaction. No matter what the task, recognising that it’s finally complete helps us feel good about ourselves.

What a shame then that so many of us fall short of the finishing line so often. And what a shame too that whatever it is we haven’t quite completed drags down the way we feel about ourselves. The trouble is that those unfinished projects just don’t go away – they sit there feeling sorry for themselves, and the longer we try to ignore them the harder it is to do something about them.

We even lose our willingness to start something new because, we tell ourselves, what’s the point when it probably won’t get finished anyhow?

Good News and great news

The good news is that getting restarted can be as rewarding and as exciting as when you first began. And the great news is that because of all the hard work you’ve already put in, you’re now much closer to the finishing line.

In fact, if you think about it positively (and you always should) taking a break is a bit of a masterstroke.

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Less Than Perfect – 5 Ways that Perfectionism Prevents Happiness and Achievement

By Andrew Leigh

Would anyone seriously argue with the saying nobody’s perfect ? Of course not. And yet throughout the world millions of otherwise sane and intelligent people saddle themselves with a life principle that dooms them to frustration and constant disappointment – the desire to do things perfectly.

You could argue that setting such high standards is good for you, leading naturally to always being at your best. Many people do just that with proud statements like: oh yes, I’m a bit of a perfectionist – achieving anything but the absolute best is failure in my book.

But here’s the perfectionist paradox – as a perfectionist you can simultaneously hold feelings of moral superiority because of the high standards you’ve set yourself, and inferiority because you never meet those standards. Far from leading to happiness and achievement such attitudes are instead deeply negative.

Here are five reasons why:

1. It leads to a constant sense of failure.

Perfection is a vanishingly rare occurrence and perfectionists tend to focus on the flaws rather than the achievement. So no matter how well a task is done, there is always a sense of failure that it wasn’t done even better. An example is the golfer who hits a stunning shot to within a few feet of the pin but feels disappointed with himself for not getting it even closer.

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Can You Improve Your Life?

By Remez Sasson

Can you improve your life?

Can you achieve success?

Do all the books, courses, webinars and workshops on self-improvement, personal growth and on success really help?

Yes, they do help, but not always, and not all people benefit from them equally.

Do you spend a lot of money on books courses and workshops, but nothing changes in your life, nothing improves in your life?

So why is that?

Let me ask you, do you really and truly want to make changes in your life?

Would you do anything to achieve the success you want?

Would you invest time and money in study, research and the necessary actions to improve your life or achieve your dreams?

  • Most people have dreams, but back in their mind, deep in their subconscious mind, they do not really want their dreams to come true. They are afraid of the changes in their life that the achievement of their dream might lead to, and in a subconscious way resist the changes, postpone them or refuse to take action.
  • There are people who feel they do not deserve to better their life.
  • Other people are deep in negative thinking.
  • People love the familiar and afraid of the new.
  • People have dreams, but are afraid to follow their dreams.

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