Do you dominate the conversation or do you let other people talk too? There are a lot of people who like to talk about themselves, about what they have done and about what they have not done, about their health, ideas, etc. They hardly let other people open their mouths.

People get pleasure from speaking about themselves, but if they always speak about their achievements or their problems, people will get fed up with their egoism and will avoid them.

Conversation is a two-way activity. A person, who dominates the conversation, might feel good about it, because he or she attracts all the attention, but he or she might be avoided the next time.

If we are willing and able to listen to others, we will gain a lot:

- We will be more appreciated by the people whom we talk to.

- We will get new points of view and perspectives.

- We might get some good advice.

- We will have more harmonious relationships.

- Listening develops patience and tolerance.

- Listening to others can solve problems.

- People will like us more, because people like good listeners.

- Listening to people will help us understand them and their needs, and this will enhance our popularity.

Next time you converse with someone, try to listen more. Let the other person speak his/her mind. You might accept or not accept his/her ideas, you may not like some criticism, and you might not care about his/her experiences, but being patient, tolerant and a good listener will win you more friends, improve your relationships, and get you more useful ideas and practical tips that can help you in many ways.

To listen well, is as powerful a means of influence as to talk well, and is as essential to all true conversation.
Chinese Proverb

Most of the successful people I’ve known are the ones who do more listening than talking.
Bernard M. Baruch

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You Can Heal Your Life: The Movie

This entertaining and inspirational movie hosted by best-selling author Louise Hay and directed by Emmy award winner Michael Goorjian gives penetrating insights into her fascinating life story. 

The movie also provides clarity on how her views on self-esteem, abundance, and the metaphysical causes behind physical ailments were developed.

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People wish to look charismatic and become popular. It doesn’t always work out, due to low self-esteem, lack of confidence or to being too aggressive or lacking tact.

Being charismatic and easily liked are important in job interviews, in sales, dealing with people or in friendships and relationships.

Here are a few simple tips that can help you more charismatic and popular:

Posture
Pay attention to the way you carry your body. Don’t stoop, shuffle or look listless. Keep your back straight when you walk and when you sit, but don’t overdo it, otherwise it will look artificial.

Eye contact
Don’t be afraid of eye contact when talking, but don’t overdo it, as this might be interrupted as rudeness.

Talking
Don’t talk too fast or too slow and speak to the point.

Keep your voice quiet, but clear. Apart from having a relaxing influence on the people you are talking with, they will have to pay more attention to what you are saying.

Even if you don’t agree with what someone says, don’t retort in anger. Stay calm, patient and tolerant, and people will respect you more.

Clothing
Being well dressed gives you more points in your favor in meetings and interviews. Your clothes do not have to be expensive. They should well fit your physique, and look nice on you.

Be a good listener
Being a good listener makes you more popular, and encourages other people to share you things they wouldn’t usually share with others.

Open body language
Crossing your hands or legs are signs that you are closing yourself, which tends to alienate people from you. Keeping an open body language, without crossing hands or feet, encourages people to open to you.

Showing interest
If you show interest in people they will like you more. It is like pampering their ego. Ask questions, show real interest, and listen to what people say. Show your interest by nodding your head, looking at the people you are talking with, and smiling when appropriate.

Self image
It is important how you see yourself and feel about yourself.
People with high self-esteem are more charismatic.
People who are self-confident show more charisma.
Being more assertive and courageous makes one look more charismatic.

Self-image can be enhanced through affirmations, visualization and the development of inner strength.
 

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However, if you wish to start a relationship with someone, who is not interested in you, it won’t be fair to use visualization, because this is just trying to force the other person to do something against his or her will.

If you desire to attract love into your life, never visualize a particular person, whom you know, because this mental coercion. It is far better to visualize being in love and happy, without referring to any special person. Let the Universe bring you the most appropriate person for you.

If you visualize and focus your mind on a particular person:

1) You are forcing that person to be with you.

2) The person you visualize might unconsciously sense what you are doing and resent it.

3) It is possible that this particular person is not the right one for you.

4) The other person might already have someone else.

5) You limit yourself to one particular person, whom might not want you. It is far better to visualize the traits of character, looks and behavior of a person you want to be with, and let the Creative Power attract the right person for you.

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