Imagine you could choose three wishes to be granted, what would you choose?
Would you ask for the first thing that comes to your mind, or would you give the matter some deep thinking and make a wiser choice? Maybe you know exactly what you want, and you don’t even have to think about it?
This is a difficult question, if you are vague about what they really want.
Most people don’t have clear goals. However, if you want to achieve success in your life you need to know exactly what you want. Without setting clear and definite goals you will not be able to focus your energies and would not accomplish much.
Your first step for success should be to know exactly what you want.
This is a difficult task for most people. Many go through life where it takes them, lacking any direction. They find it difficult to arrive to a clear understanding of their abilities, what they are best suited to do, and what they really desire to do with their lives.
You need to look inside you for the answer. Sit down everyday with a pencil and paper, where you won’t be disturbed, and write down all the ideas that come to your mind.
Analyze every desire. Find its pros and cons, and whether you really want it achieved. You will be surprised how many ideas, which look plausible at first, turn to be unimportant goals after a little thinking.
Don’t despair if you don’t find anything that really interests you. Just keep thinking, writing down and analyzing your ideas day after day.
Even if you don’t find what is most important for you after a few days, a week or more, the understanding and insight will gradually unfold to you.
Remember, even small goals are goals. One of the reasons people find it difficult to decide about goals is because they believe they have to choose something big, and this frightens them. They might be afraid of the big responsibilities that come by pursuing and achieving big goals, and prefer to lead a simple, ordinary life.
When looking for your true desires, don’t just think about the wealthy and famous people you see on TV or read about in the newspapers. Though people might like to see them and read about them, not everyone wants to attain fame and power.
This might seem strange to say, but most people would feel more comfortable and satisfied with smaller goals.
Achieving smaller goals on a personal and more mundane level might be what want or prefer, and that’s quite okay.
Ask yourself the following questions about your goals:
- Upon achieving this goal, would I be happy and satisfied?
- What will it solve in my life?
- What will be its effect on my life?
- What will be its effect on other people?
- Do I really want to achieve this goal?
After finding what you want, and are sure about it, try to see how you can make your goal a little bigger.
Don’t limit your thinking, because whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can eventually accomplish. For example, if your goal is finding a good and satisfying job, think about something bigger and believe you can get it.
If you desire a certain amount of money, and you feel mentally comfortable with it, try thinking about a larger amount.
If your goal is to lose a few pounds, try getting your mind comfortable with the idea of losing a little more, provided of course you don’t harm your health.
After setting clear and definite goals, you will certainly know what are your three most important wishes.
Remember, what the mind can conceive and believe to be possible, it can eventually achieve.
About the Author
Remez Sasson is the founder of Success Consciousness. In his articles and books, he teaches about positive thinking and motivation, visualization, gaining inner strength and inner peace, achieving success, and about improving one’s life.