By Remez Sasson
Emotional Detachment for a Better Life is my book on this subject.
- Are you quick to get angry?
- Do your moods go up and down often?
- Are you easily affected by what people say or think about you?
- Can an insignificant incident destroy your whole day?
- Do you allow situations and people to affect your moods and behavior?
- Do you lack inner peace?
Imagine how free, relieved and happy you would be, if you could stay calm and poised in the midst of whatever is happening in your life. Think how much physical, emotional and mental energy you could spare, if you were able to avoid becoming upset, angry or moody.
Emotional agitation, anger, and hurt feelings, cause stress and unhappiness, and lead nowhere, except to more pain, suffering and broken relationships. They disturb your mind, disrupt your concentration, and prevent you from focusing on the matters at hand. If you wish to enjoy inner peace, it is imperative that you try to gain at least some degree of detachment.
Too much emotional involvement with matters that do not concern you, or are not important, take too much of your time, energy and health. Excessive emotional involvement agitates your mind and feelings, and prevents you from experiencing inner peace.
Emotional involvement leads to attachment, to fear of letting go, and to avoiding changes. If you wish progress in life, you need at least some degree of emotional detachment, otherwise you let people and events, your thoughts and your past, tie you down.
Detachment is important in daily life, in the pursuit of ambitions and on the spiritual path. It is valuable to everyone, whether pursuing spirituality or material success.
Let me give you a few examples of detachment.
What happens, when somebody says to you something that you don’t like? You will probably become angry, unhappy or feel hurt. Why is this so? Because you value other people’s words and opinions more than you value your own thoughts and opinions of yourself. You let other’s people thoughts, words and actions influence your happiness, actions and reactions. On the other hand, when you possess emotional detachment, you enjoy a state of inner peace and equanimity, unaffected by circumstances, or by other people’s moods and states of mind.
Suppose you meditate, but thoughts keep coming into your mind. You get emotionally involved with your thoughts, follow them, and forget about your meditation and concentration. If you could show detachment, it would have been easier to ignore the disturbing thoughts. Detachment would have helped you to stay collected and concentrated.
Emotional detachment would not necessarily make your life problems-free. You will still encounter disturbing circumstances and disturbing people, because this is part of life. However, your attitude toward them, your state of mind, and the way you react, would change.
Emotional detachment is a skill you can learn to master, like any other skill, and is essential for every person who wishes to become free from worries, fears and anxiety. It is most useful in many situations, when dealing with family or friends, or at your job. This skill can help you stay focused, and use common sense in the daily affairs of your life.
I am not talking about physical detachment and avoiding people. Detachment, in the sense referred here, is an inner attitude, which allows you to interact with other people, show warmth, compassion and love, and yet, maintain a state of composure and equanimity.
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Remez Sasson is an author and blogger. He is the founder of SuccessConsciousness.com, a website and blog about self improvement and spiritual growth.
Remez Sasson is the author of several life transforming books, containing a wealth of information, advice and guidance.
You are doing a very good work addressing the core problem which we
have to face in our life.
normally this matter does not seems to matter to common people but the
mental attitude is the hell or heaven which we experience in our life.
By changing our mind we can change our life experience.
Please keep on the good work.
with best regards.
Rashidul.
You are absolutely right, Rashidul, saying that by changing our mind, we can change our life experience.
It is very informative.
Are you gona put this book on amazon. I have kindle.
Unfortunately, most of us humans are automatic response systems… we respond based on our unconscious programming. We can learn to be more aware and “watch” our thought process so we can respond more appropriately to the given situation.
Thanks Remez… you are doing a great service to people.
Andrew
Esther,
The book will be sold through this website, in the same format as the other books. There is no Kindle version, though it is posiible that some time in the future there will be one.
Hi Remez,
you are correct, emotional attachment is a negative virtue. It has left many (including myself) unfulfilled in life. We humans are social creatures and therefore get so easily attached emotionally; even to matters that can’t benefit us. It’s true, emotional detachment is vital for daily living.cheers.
Best regards,
Smart Megwai.
Thank you Smart Megwai, for your comment.
Emotional attachment is like being tied with chains, while emotional detachment leads to freedom.
Hello!
I just found myself reading through mindfulness and meditation blogs and wondered if indeed being mindful can change one’s perspective in life. I have read this post and I must say that indeed I find it quite difficult to keep still and be mindful, without being clouded by emotion and judgement. Maybe through the right meditation techniques, I’ll achieve my goal.
Thank you for this post!