By Remez Sasson
Do you take too personally what people say to you?
Do you feel offended by remarks, actions or behavior of other people?
Do you take every minor event too seriously, letting it limit or frighten you?
Did you know that quite often the offence is not real, and the so-called offender never intended to offend you at all?
Sometimes, you might have a wrong interpretation of someone’s words or behavior, due to lack of sufficient information or missing facts. Does this justify feeling offended? In such cases, the so-called offender might not know what’s the matter with you.
On other occasions, even if the other person did try to offend you intentionally, why accept, think, or dwell on what he or she said? It is absolutely foolish to participate in the game of hurt feelings.
I know, you might say it is easier said than done. When you feel hurt, insulted and angry, you cannot sweep these feelings under the carpet, but good and worthwhile things require some effort. Learning how to stop taking things too personally and too personally require that you invest effort and time.
You have no choice but to train yourself, change your attitude, and learn to react differently.
Taking things too personally and too seriously, makes life difficult, and often brings unhappiness and suffering.
When you take things too personally and seriously, you make yourself more vulnerable to hurt feelings, anger, frustration and unhappiness. Taking things too personally is like placing a heavy load on your back.
What can you do to stop taking things too personally and seriously?
There are many things you can do as first aid tips, but I wouldn’t go into them. You can easily find them on the Internet. I am suggesting here a different thing, which can put an end to this situation, and this is emotional detachment. I have written a number of articles on this subject, which you can find at the website, as well as a book dedicated to this subject. When you learn to use emotional detachment in a positive way, you will not need first aid tips, but will, in a natural and effortless way, not take things too personally. You will also not take minor and unimportant incidents too seriously. This will make you free and happy.
True detachment is a skill that requires some training, and cannot be taught in a short article like this.
Below you will find a few quotes to ponder about, and, which relate to the subject of this article.
Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don Miguel Ruiz
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside.
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.
Lewis B. Smedes
We often add to our pain and suffering by being overly sensitive, over-reacting to minor things and sometimes taking things too personally.