How Do You Manage Your Time?

How do you manage your time, or maybe you don’t manage it at all, letting other people and circumstances dictate to you what to do?

If managing your time seems a big task, why not try to manage just a few hours of your day, maybe even just one hour for a start? If you are not be able to manage your time at your job, do so at least in you free time, where you have more control.

Managing your time means giving priorities to certain tasks, and leaving for later other, less important tasks. It is certainly more pleasurable, and requires less effort to read your mail than working. It is more pleasure to watch a movie than study, but this does not make the task done.

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What to Do When You Don’t Like Your Job

Earn Money

If you ask 10 people if they like their job, more than half would probably say that they don’t like it.

If you don’t like your job, how can you work and do it well?

Everyone needs money, and therefore, has to work in order to get it. This means that a lot of people are doing something they don’t like doing, and are therefore, unhappy.

There are people, who can afford to quit their jobs and look for something else, even if in the meantime they are not earning money.

There are people, who are confident in their abilities and have courage to seek a job, doing something they love doing.

There are people with very strong ambition, who will do anything to achieve goals.

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The 1 Question that Kills Inaction

Icy Slope

Imagine you’re on a solo backpacking expedition in the arctic! You’re hiking uphill in the subzero whipping wind, with a 50-pound pack of survival supplies on your back. The route is inclining steeper and STEEPER, and through the blur of snowy wind you can see the outlines of giant snowdrifts forming in your path. The elements seem to be against you. You FEEL frozen in place, as if you cannot take another step!

Have you ever felt like this… completely overwhelmed by life’s circumstances?

Sometimes life can feel like a treacherous backpacking expedition. Even a mounting to-do list can snowball into an avalanche in your mind and leave you feeling powerless-IF you let it.

I know I have been in that moment before. The deadlines, to-do lists, and various pieces of life have piled up. I have found myself sitting down and thinking, What do I do next? What is next, what is next?

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Can You Stop Using Your Cell Phone for One Hour?

Cell Phone

Are you attached to your cell phone, unable to leave it aside for a few minutes?

Can you travel by bus or train, or wait in line, without texting with your cell phone?

Do you always want to know what your friends are saying, or tell them where you are?

What can happen, if for just one hour you stop your curiosity?

Suppose you were on a small island for the next 24 hours with no cell phone at all? Can you survive?

Look around you, and you will see people in the train or the bus, in an elevator or at a restaurant, with their gaze fixed on this small instrument in their hands, oblivious to what is happening around them. It became an extension of their personality and their body.

If once, many years ago, people worshiped gods, now they worship the cell phone.

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Turning Self Doubt into Confidence

Turning Self Doubt into Confidence

If you have a clear direction in life, and feel ready to move forward, self doubt can be the fastest way to slow you down. If you believe the inner voice of doubt, it can easily rob you of your enthusiasm, bring up fear, and negate all the preparation you’ve done toward achieving your goal. So at some point along your path, it becomes necessary to turn self doubt into confidence.

Confidence is not arrogance, bluster, or posing. It’s grounded quiet assurance. Usually those with natural self-confidence had the good fortune to have grown up in an environment where trying new things was encouraged, and making mistakes was simply considered a normal part of learning, not a sign of failure. Those who lack self confidence usually didn’t have the opportunity early on to receive encouragement, make mistakes, and be encouraged to try again.

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The Importance of Setting Goals

Importance of Goals

It is important to have goals in your life. Coaches, motivators, and authors tell you that you have to set goals. There is a lot of talking about goals.

Are goals really so important?

Goals are important in the sense that they give you direction in life. The goal itself might be not so important, and when you achieve it, you might find that it doesn’t give you the satisfaction you expected.

Having more money and more possessions makes your life more comfortable, but this does not necessarily make you happier or more content.

However, having goals is like having a map. You know where you are heading, and this gives you zest, motivation and more energy. You become more alive.

Do you have goals? I don’t mean wishes. A real goal is not a wish. It is something, into which you will put all your efforts to achieve.

A goal does not have to be something big. Not everyone wants to achieve something big, on a major scale. Most people are satisfied with mediocre life, and that’s okay. But even if you don’t aim high, it’s good to have goals.

Goals don’t have to be major goals. Only a certain percentage of the population is really interested in major goals and is willing to do something to achieve them.

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You Don’t Have to Participate in the Drama People Create

drama

A few days ago, I came across the following saying:
“Just because someone invites you to drama, doesn’t mean you have to attend.”

This is so true, but sadly, an advice not frequently followed.

  • How many times have you been drawn into the drama someone created?
  • How many times you got too involved with other people’s problems or negative thinking?
  • How many times you felt manipulated by the drama people created?
  • How many times you felt exhausted and tired after such situations?
  • How many times you said things you shouldn’t say, when forced into emotional situations?

I daresay many times. And each time, you tell yourself that you wouldn’t let yourself get involved in such a situation anymore, but yet, you get involved again.

Next time, someone “invites” you into drama, telling you about their health and other problems, sharing their negative thoughts, worries or fears, or just criticizing or emotionally manipulating you, wait for a moment before reacting.

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Questions About Lack of Focus and the Chatter in the Mind

Thinking and Lack of FocusI receive a lot of mail each day from website visitors. Some of them send me a mail, thanking me for the information at the website, and some asking questions concerning self-improvement, personal problems, meditation, motivation, creative visualization, and other related subjects.

I try to read all the messages, and if I can help, send a reply, or refer the person who asked the question to one of my articles.

If you have a question, read through the website, before emailing me, since the answer is most probably already there.

There are website visitors, who send very long emails, but since I have other things to do, such emails are either not read, or read only some time later. Short mails are always preferred, and they receive a faster response.

Many of the questions I receive concern concentration, focus and the inner chatter that goes on in the mind.

People are worried about their concentration and want to improve it. They tell me that they are unable to concentrate at work or when they study. They tell me that their mind wanders, and they find it difficult to fix it on one thing.

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How Many Thoughts Does Your Mind Think in One Hour?

Stream of Water - Stream of Thoughts

Do you know how many thoughts your mind thinks each hour of the day?

Experts estimate that the mind thinks between 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day. That’s an average of 2500 – 3,300 thoughts per hour. That’s incredible.

Other experts estimate a smaller number, of 50,000 thoughts per day, which means about 2100 thoughts per hour. This too, is a great number of thoughts.

If you were able sell each thought, you would be rich in no time.

Did you notice what kind of thoughts do you think?
If you pay attention to these thoughts, you would be amazed to discover that most of them are useless, unimportant thoughts that pass through the mind with a huge speed. These are words you repeat in your mind, comments the mind makes, repeating what you heard said, questions, answers and a lot of senseless wandering thoughts that you might not even be aware of.

You might not believe that you think these huge quantities of thoughts, but if you have experience with meditation, you would have proof of the great number of thoughts passing through your mind. It’s just like being a very busy train station or airport terminal, where a great number of people come and go.

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