Your Dominant Thoughts – How to Take Advantage of Them

Not only do we become what we think about, we do what we think about. Whether your thoughts are positive or negative your mind will act on them. If we are directed by our dominating thoughts, why not implant our minds with things that will benefit us?
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Self belief is a wonderful thing.

I know from my own life experiences that whenever I have been filled with dread or doubt I am unable to perform at a satisfactory level. Just the other day I was using a claw hammer and a lever to dismantle a packing crate. At the time I was making quite a noise hammering away when my wife came down to the workshop to see what I was doing.

Jokingly, I quipped: “I haven’t hit my fingers with the hammer yet!” Guess what I did within minutes of uttering those words? Yep. Bang. Yeeowch! Actually, I didn’t say that. It was something more colorful.

You see, in retrospect, what I did was plant the seed in my mind that I was going to hit my fingers with the hammer. My mind set about fulfilling the thought.

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Too Much Empathy Does Not Help Anyone

Look at the people around you, and you will discover that almost everyone seems to get emotionally involved with other people’s pains and problems. They get involved, and get affected, not only by close people, but also with the problems of strangers too.

Look, for example, at how parents feel in relation to their children. They get anxious and stressed by whatever happens to them at school and with friends. Sometimes, this goes too far, making the parents nervous, restless and tense. This is an unhealthy situation, draining their strength and energy, and preventing them from having a sound sleep at night.

We care not only about our children, but also about other family members, about friends, and about colleagues.

That’s okay, as long as you don’t cause yourself unnecessary emotional pain. Too much empathy does not help anyone and it does not help you.

Be caring, loving and helpful. It is possible to do so, without burdening yourself with other people’s feelings.

You might say that you need to sympathize and empathize. Yes, you are right, but only up to a certain point.

A certain amount of empathy is okay, but when it becomes exaggerated it causes unnecessary emotional pain and suffering.

You need to realize that everyone has his or her own life, with its ups and downs, and things he or she has to deal with in order to grow and get stronger. You don’t need to solve everyone’s problem. What makes you think that you can do it better than them?

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How to Read Quotes and Benefit From Them

Open Book

I discovered that there are a lot of people who like to read quotes. I mean inspiring and enlightening quotes about different topics. People like to read quotes, because these are concise sentences, expressing wisdom, and awakening motivation, inspiration and happiness.

If you search for quotes on the Internet, you will find a lot of websites displaying quotes, and also many websites dedicated especially for quotes. I too, have included a section with quotes at my website, which you can find at the quotes directory. I am happy to say that these pages are viewed thousands of times every day, by people from all over the world.

There are two questions I would like to answer in this article:
1. Why people love to read quotes.
2. How to read quotes and benefit from them.

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A Vacation in Berlin, Germany

You might have wondered why I have not posted anything at the blog lately. The reason is that I have been away, on vacation.

I have spent a week in Berlin, Germany, with my wife and kids. We stayed in Abba hotel, at Lietzenburger Street, which is situated just 2 minutes walk from Kurfurstendamm, one of Berlin’s most famous streets, where you can find many shops and malls.

Berlin offers a lot of attractions for tourists, and one week is certainly not enough. There are many historical places, museums, parks, malls, beautiful streets, restaurants and coffee shops. You can find malls and shops in every city in the world, but it looks, as if in Berlin their number is greater, than in any other place. There are more expensive malls like KaDeWe and Galeria Kaufhof, or less expensive, like C&A. You can find in Berlin everything you want. It is a feast for people who love shopping.

It was more than just a trip to Berlin. It was a family vacation. You know how it is with adolescent children nowadays. They are busy with their friends, television, the computer and Facebook, and have no time for their parents. When you travel with them, it is a good time for bonding. They have no choice, but to be with their parents, talk, and spend time with them.

Brandenburg Gate

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Is It Necessary to Control Anger?

Angry Monkey

Is it necessary to control anger? The answer is no! Controlling anger is not the best option.

Confused? I will make this clearer.

When you are angry, and you try to control the anger, one or more things might happen:

You will bottle up your anger, which is very unhealthy.

You will fight your anger, which means that you will focus your attention on it, trying to restrain it. However, what you focus on grows, so that though you try to control your anger, you get the opposite result. Focus your attention on controlling anger leads to inner fight, more attention paid to the anger, and consequently, more anger and frustration.

Anger is best controlled indirectly.

There are several things that you can do to avoid getting angry, or if you get angry, not let the anger grow. I have provided a few simple tips in my articles, but they don’t focus directly on controlling the anger. These tips can help you calm down, and they can help you prevent anger from culminating. You can use them in the various situations you encounter in your day-to-day life.

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