Being Busy Does Not Equal Being Productive

Being “busy” can destroy your ability to get things done. How many people do you know who are so busy being busy that they never seem to get anything worthwhile done? Does that describe you, maybe even just a little bit? Being busy all the time, through necessity, is a curse. Being busy all the … Continue Reading…

Learn How to Say No

I am in the middle of several projects

  • Let people know when you have accepted other responsibilities
  • No need to make excuses if you don’t have any free time
  • No one will fault you for having already filled your plate

I am not comfortable with that

  • You might be uncomfortable with any of a number of issues
  • The people involved, the type of work, the morale implications, etc.
  • This is a very respectful way to avoid a sticky situation

I am not taking on any new responsibilities

  • You aren’t saying that you will never help out again
  • Lust that you feel your schedule is as full as you would like now
  • Understanding your limits is a talent to be expected

I am not the most qualified person for the job

  • If you don’t feel that you have adequate skills, that’s okay
  • It’s better to admit your limitations up front
  • The best way to avoid feeling overwhelmed down the road

I do not enjoy that kind of work

  • Life isn’t about drudgery — if you don’t enjoy it, why do it?
  • Don’t be afraid to let someone know you just don’t want to
  • Someone else is bound to enjoy the work you don’t

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Your Self Esteem

“Perfect self expression will never be labor; but of such absorbing interest that it will seem almost like play.”
– Florence Scovel Shinn

Self EsteemIn Succeeding Through Inner Strength, Dr. Nathaniel Branden says that people unconsciously lower their self-esteem through their goals.

They usually start by writing down some nebulous wish and may start working on it with the best of intentions. They may even know exactly what they want and work really hard in order to get it. However and more often than not, they quit and do so sometimes just as fast as they have written it down.

They feel that their goal is unachievable, abandon their efforts out of feeling belittled by such a lofty ambition, or quit due to the accumulation of stress and frustration they’ve acquired in the process. And the worst part is that they usually rationalize their decision by referring to the goal’s seeming unfeasibility or, worse yet, to their inability.

They say things, like, “I knew I couldn’t do it,” “it’s not for me,” “I’m just not cut out for it,” “I’m not worth it,” and so on. Seldom do they know that the problem has nothing to do with the goal in itself — or with themselves, for that matter. It’s in the “why,” not the “how.” It’s what they focused on to start with.

“Setting goals just isn’t enough,” Dr. Branden says. “Ask yourself: ‘What am I going to do next week in order to reach my goal? What about tomorrow? What about now?’ You must become consciously purposeful.”

The point is that you shouldn’t set a future goal and just leave it there. If you do that, I promise you that it will stay there. And the worst part is that it will, more often than not, take you away from your present moments.

Be mindful what’s important during every single moment of your life and not at some point in the future. In other words, make your priorities your goals and then make them a part of your life. Translate your priorities into activities. Make your goals your “conscious purposes,” as Dr. Branden says.

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Quotes on Decisions and Making Decisions

I have added a new page to the quotes directory, with quotes about decisions and making decisions. Here are a few of the quotes: High achievers spot rich opportunities swiftly, make big decisions quickly and move into action immediately. Follow these principles and you can make your dreams come true. – Robert H. Schuller The … Continue Reading…

Guide to Inspiration – Simple Tips to Get Inspired

InspirationThere are days when we feel inspired, with plenty of ideas of what to do, how to improve our life, our business or our relationships. At these times we also feel full with the energy and desire to make things happen. At other times we lack inspiration and feel empty, with no ideas, no creativity, and no zest.

What do you do when you don’t feel the pulse of inspiration throbbing within you?

What does a writer do, when he or she are not inspired?

What do you if you are a schoolboy, a student, a worker, or a manger of your company, when everything seems boring and heavy?

We all have days when need some inspiration, when we need passion and creativity.

Here is a short guide for inspiration for anyone who experiences lack of inspiration and creativity. The inspiration tips in this short guide might not work the same way for everyone, but you can try them. What works for one does not necessarily work for another; you will never know that for sure until you try.

Before I give you these inspiration tips, let’s talk a little about inspiration.

What Is Inspiration?

  • It is state when your consciousness and awareness open up to higher vibrations.
  • It is when your mind is open to receive new ideas.
  • It is creativity expressing itself through your mind and your soul.
  • Being inspired means to be positive.
  • It is a beautiful feeling of happiness and contentment.
  • It is a time when you see the solutions to your problems.
  • Inspiration is sort of energy that makes your mind, soul and body more alive.
  • It is like being plugged to a positive, uplifting and motivating current of energy.

Inspiration can’t be forced, and sometimes it comes when it is least expected. It is as if some kind of energy or power is breathed into you.

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Developing Inner Strength While Crossing the Street

What do you do when you are walking on the pavement and wish to cross a small and narrow street, where there are no vehicles, but the light is red at the pedestrian’s crossing?

What do you if all the pedestrians are crossing the street, not heeding the traffic lights? Do you cross the street too, while the light is red, because everyone else is doing so?

Suppose you see all the people are crossing the street, but you stop and say, “I don’t care what they are doing, I am going to wait until the light changes.” You will most probably feel awkward and think that people are laughing at you or ridiculing you, because you are waiting for the light to change. You don’t want to attract undue attention and you don’t want everyone looking at you.

Do you know that you can use this situation to your advantage? You can use this situation to develop inner strength, courage, and decisiveness.

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How to Find Peace of Mind

Everyone desires peace of mind, but the big question is how to find peace of mind, when there are problems and difficulties, when there are worries and anxiety, and when you are busy all the time with work, study and chores? When you are so busy all day long, how and when can you find peace of mind?

How to find peace of mind when your mind is constantly occupied with thoughts, taking you from one thought to another, from one worry to another?

You can find peace of mind, but this requires that you do something about it.

What is peace of mind? It is a state of inner peace, when your mind is calm, like the surface of a lake on a summer day. It is a state when you are not harassed by thoughts and worries, and you can avoid the thoughts you don’t want to think. It is a state of freedom from worry and anxiety, and from restless, negative and disturbing thoughts.

In this state there is calmness and happiness, better concentration, inner strength, and a heightened state of awareness. Your external life might not necessarily change, but your inner life, your mind, and your attitude would change.

How to find peace of mind?

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50 Famously Successful People Who Failed at First

Here is a list of 50 people who achieved success, but who failed at first. This list includes businessmen, scientists, inventors, public figures, actors, actresses and directors, writers, artists, musicians and athletes. 50 Famously Successful People Who Failed at First Not everyone who’s on top today got there with success after success. More often than … Continue Reading…