Finding ‘Me Time’

SeagullWhy a little selfishness is good for you – and for everyone else!
Have you invested any time on your own wellbeing lately?
Well, while I guess some will be able to say yes to that question, many others will be shaking their heads in disbelief. There always seems so much to do: work, partners, family and friends, and jobs around the home – all clamour for your attention, time and energy. And when it comes to deciding between yourself and others it’s no contest.
Negative generosity
Negative generosity? Can there really be such a thing? Well, while it’s brilliant to have a generous nature, only being able to say yes to requests for help, time or work is anything but. One consequence of only being able to say yes is a feeling of not being in control. Another is that we find it almost impossible to engineer time out for ourselves – and when we do something inevitably crops up that seems ‘more important’. If we continue this way, then over time we become stressed, anxious, worn out and eventually resentful to those around us.
Yes, strange as it may seem, generosity of this kind can actually damage relationships! And as the receivers seem to just take it all for granted the over-generous giver becomes more and more tetchy in their giving.
Saying No
When people in this frame of mind do finally say no, it’s usually done in a temper, and often blurted out at the ones who least deserve it.

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Affirmations for Attracting Money

Affirmations for Money

Affirmations can help you focus your mind on money, motivate and inspire you to act and do something about having more money. They also help you become more aware of opportunities to make money.

The problem is that most people want money, but they:

  • Don’t feel they deserve money.
  • Don’t really believe they can make more money.
  • Are afraid to take the necessary steps to make more money.
  • Have low self-esteem.
  • Think negative thoughts that don’t let money come in.
  • Focus on their current financial condition, instead of focusing on how they want their financial condition to be.

Affirmations can help you attract money into your life. Affirmations combined with planning and action can work better and faster.

The real magic of affirmations is not repeating meaningless words, but repeating them in such a way that they motivate you to do things, inspire you, and open your eyes to see opportunities.

For affirmations to work, you need to affirm with faith and with the belief that what you are saying is already true. Just repeating the words with no faith and with no belief and waiting for miracles is not enough.

Feel the truth of the affirmation when repeating it. Let it inspire and motivate you. Keep an open mind and take advantage of opportunities that might pop up, and which can make the affirmation come true.

Affirmations are a great tool, but you need to back them up with positive action, persistence, and the willingness to pass through the doors that open for you.

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Waking Up in the Morning in Time to Go to School

Are your children able to wake up early in the morning to go to school on time?

Often, during the summer holidays, children go to sleep quite late. Nowadays, children watch TV and play on their computers until the late hours of the night, and sometimes even later. Parents of teenagers often feel helpless, when their children turn the night into their day, and their day into their night. They go to sleep late and wake up late.

Now that the summer holidays are ending and the school year is beginning, children will need to wake up earlier. How are you going to deal with this? Some planning is required, as well as some degree of discipline and firmness.

Now is the time to start limiting the time for watching TV and playing on the computer. You, as a parent, have to draw limits and tell your children to switch off the TV and the computer at hours that you decide about.

It would be a good idea if the hours of going to sleep and waking up were changed gradually and not abruptly. Each day your child should go to sleep a little earlier and wake up a little earlier. If you send your child to sleep several hours earlier than he or she became used to, they will fight you and not accept this. They will also find it difficult to fall asleep. This is more so with teenagers.

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The Power of Faith and Belief

“The power of faith and belief is real power. Believing that you can attain your goal is of great importance for its achievement. Without faith, there will be doubts and disbelief, which lead to non-doing and to non-achievement. Faith draws and attracts what you want into your life, whereas doubts, worries and disbelief push them away.

If you read about the lives of people who have achieved success, you would discover that faith played a major role in their life. They believed they can achieve their goals and had no doubts about it. They visualized their goal as already achieved, as already a fact, and this is what you also need to do.”

The above excerpt is from the book Visualize and Achieve

The Power of Faith and Belief can change your life!

The faith and belief I am talking about is not the faith of religion, but faith in yourself, in your ability to achieve goals, faith that thoughts can turn into things, faith in your vision, and faith in the power that created and is creating and recreating the world, within which you exist.

Faith in this sense equals belief and certainty that you can achieve your goal. This kind of belief and faith strengthen the motivation to act and do things, and helps you maintain the positive attitude necessary for success.

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Take Time To Do Things You Enjoy Doing

Make a list of things you enjoy doing. This can be any simple activity, which you love doing, and that can be done in your daily life. Put in the list at least ten items, and then do something from this list every day. From time to time, as you discover more things that you like doing, add them to this list.

Some examples could be:

  • Taking a walk
  • Conversing with a friend that you like
  • Preparing a special dish
  • Eating a special meal
  • Reading a book
  • Taking a short nap at noon
  • Going to the movies
  • Meditation
  • Going to a lecture about a subject that you like
  • Eating out
  • Shopping
  • Painting
  • Playing with your kids
  • Walking on the beach
  • Swimming

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The News Diet

– How many times a day, do you watch the news on TV?

– How many times a day, do you listen to the news on the radio?

– How much time do you spend reading the newspapers everyday?

– Are you a news addict?

– Do you really need to stuff your mind with so many details every day?

– Do you need all the strain, stress and fears caused by watching the news?

– Will you be able to change events and the world by listening to the news?

There are many people who feel the need to watch, listen, read and discuss the news, important matters and also trivial matters. This habit makes it difficult to control the mind and weakens the ability to concentrate. This habit also prevents you from experiencing inner peace, since your mind constantly buzzes with details of the news, and because the news makes you stressed strained, anxious and often unhappy.

I am not suggesting that you stop being interested in what is going in the world. I am not suggesting that you close your eyes and your mind. Living in the world, you need to know what is going on in the world, but you can limit the time you spend watching, listening or reading the news, by exercising a “news diet”.

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