By Remez Sasson
Building self confidence is important for everyday life and for achieving any task or goal. How can you build self confidence, especially if you lack self confidence?
Stop judging yourself and comparing yourself to others, especially comparing yourself to strong and successful people. You might feel that you don’t measure up with them, and this will further weaken your self confidence. Accept yourself as you are, don’t compare yourself to others and start working on building self confidence. If you lack this ability it won’t appear suddenly. You need to develop it.
Self confidence is the way you look at yourself, and has nothing to with what people think of you. It is an attitude, and attitudes can be changed.
Tips for building self confidence:
1. Never tell yourself “I can’t.”
2. Always tell yourself “I can.”
3. Understand that no matter how many times you fail, there is always the next time.
4. Whenever you find yourself behaving with lack of self confidence, analyze what happened, and what caused you to behave in such a way.
5. When you catch yourself thinking how weak you are and lacking in self confidence, immediately start telling yourself the opposite.
6. Think of situations in which you usually display lack of confidence, but now, in your mind, visualize yourself acting with confidence.
7. Repeat several times a day affirmations such as:
“Self confidence is growing stronger and stronger in me.”
“I am able to deal confidently with every situation.”
“I feel strong and able to assert myself.”
8. Willpower and self discipline are very important for developing inner strength, assertiveness and confidence. There are special exercises to develop these abilities, and also a complete course to boost up your willpower and self discipline.
9. Don’t postpone or evade difficult and unpleasant tasks, because they can teach you inner strength.
10. Before performing an activity that requires displaying strength, assertiveness or confidence, take a few deep breaths and relax your body.
“What seems impossible one minute becomes, through faith, possible the next.” – Norman Vincent Peale