By Remez Sasson
It is a fact that most people want to be liked. Some people succeed in doing so, and others try to make a good impression, but get the opposite results.
People wish to look charismatic and become popular. It doesn’t always work out, due to low self-esteem and lack of confidence, or being too aggressive and lacking tact.
Being charismatic and easily liked are important in job interviews, in sales, dealing with people or in friendships and relationships.
Here are a few simple tips that can help you more charismatic and popular:
Pay attention to the way you carry your body. Don’t stoop, shuffle or look listless. Keep your back straight when you walk and when you sit, but don’t overdo it, otherwise it will look artificial.
Don’t be afraid of eye contact when talking, but don’t overdo it, as this might be interrupted as rudeness.
Don’t talk too fast or too slow. Speak to the point.
Keep your voice quiet, but clear. Apart from having a relaxing influence on the people you are talking with, they will have to pay more attention to what you are saying.
Even if you don’t agree with what someone says, don’t retort in anger. Stay calm, patient and tolerant, and people will respect you more.
Being well dressed gives you more points in your favor in meetings and interviews. Your clothes do not have to be expensive. They should well fit your physique, and look nice on you.
Be a good listener
Being a good listener makes you more popular, and encourages people to talk about topics they wouldn’t usually share with others.
Open body language
Crossing your hands or legs are signs that you are closing yourself, which tends to alienate people from you. Keeping an open body language, without crossing hands or feet, encourages people to open to you.
If you show interest in people they will like you more. It is like pampering their ego. Ask questions, show real interest, and listen to what people say. Show your interest by nodding your head, looking at the people you are talking with, and smiling when appropriate.
It is important how you see yourself and feel about yourself.
People with high self-esteem are more charismatic.
People who are self-confident show more charisma.
Being more assertive and courageous makes one look more charismatic.