Here are some wise words and advice from the Indian sage Nisargadatta Maharaj about love, fear, alienation and self-realization:
“When you know beyond all doubting that the same life flows through all that is and you are that life, you will love all naturally and spontaneously. When you realize the depth and fullness of your love of yourself, you know that every living being and the entire universe are included in your affection. But when you look at anything as separate from you, you cannot love it for you are afraid of it. Alienation causes fear and fear deepens alienation. It is a vicious circle. Only self-realization can break it.”
(An excerpt from “I am that”, talks with Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj.)
Read this paragraph again and again, and you will realize the deep truth within these words.