You Don’t Have to Participate in the Drama People Create

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A few days ago, I came across the following saying:
“Just because someone invites you to drama, doesn’t mean you have to attend.”

This is so true, but sadly, an advice not frequently followed.

  • How many times have you been drawn into the drama someone created?
  • How many times you got too involved with other people’s problems or negative thinking?
  • How many times you felt manipulated by the drama people created?
  • How many times you felt exhausted and tired after such situations?
  • How many times you said things you shouldn’t say, when forced into emotional situations?

I daresay many times. And each time, you tell yourself that you wouldn’t let yourself get involved in such a situation anymore, but yet, you get involved again.

Next time, someone “invites” you into drama, telling you about their health and other problems, sharing their negative thoughts, worries or fears, or just criticizing or emotionally manipulating you, wait for a moment before reacting.

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Don’t Allow People and Circumstances Control Your Life

Do you allow people and circumstances control your life, moods, and state of mind?

How do you feel, if your boss criticizes your work, or tells you something you don’t like?

How do you react, when a driver enters recklessly, and without signaling, into your lane, in front of your car?

In these and similar situations, do you, keep thinking about the incident? Do you get angry, unhappy or frustrated?

This happens to almost everybody, almost everyday. Just think, how many minutes, and often hours, you spend every day, dwelling on what this person said and that person did. If you take these incidents too personally you become unfocused and inefficient at work, at home, at everywhere else.

We let people and circumstances control our life, if we let them affect our moods and state of mind.

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is the founder of Success Consciousness. He is the author of articles and books, teaching how to use one’s mental tools and inner powers to create a life of happiness, success, fulfillment and inner peace.

Is It Necessary to Control Anger?

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Is it necessary to control anger? The answer is no! Controlling anger is not the best option.

Confused? I will make this clearer.

When you are angry, and you try to control the anger, one or more things might happen:

You will bottle up your anger, which is very unhealthy.

You will fight your anger, which means that you will focus your attention on it, trying to restrain it. However, what you focus on grows, so that though you try to control your anger, you get the opposite result. Focus your attention on controlling anger leads to inner fight, more attention paid to the anger, and consequently, more anger and frustration.

Anger is best controlled indirectly.

There are several things that you can do to avoid getting angry, or if you get angry, not let the anger grow. I have provided a few simple tips in my articles, but they don’t focus directly on controlling the anger. These tips can help you calm down, and they can help you prevent anger from culminating. You can use them in the various situations you encounter in your day-to-day life.

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is the founder of Success Consciousness. He is the author of articles and books, teaching how to use one’s mental tools and inner powers to create a life of happiness, success, fulfillment and inner peace.

Do You Know What Emotional Detachment Is?

Do you know what emotional detachment is? I am not speaking about indifference, staying away from people, or stifling your emotions due to the fear that you might get hurt. I am talking about what I call, “positive emotional detachment”. This kind of emotional detachment can help you maintain a state of calmness and self-control … Continue Reading…