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A Better Life Starts in the Mind

Remez Sasson — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 06:56:02 +0000

It is difficult to stay positive, when you lose your job and lose your money. At such a time, it is so easy to fall prey to negative thinking and imagining more disasters. Yet, it is at this time that positive thinking becomes so important.

If you let your thoughts become negative, if you feel despair, will this help you in any way? Absolutely not! You may say that the world conditions have changed and you can do nothing about it. You may say you are too old, or too inexperienced to get a new job, and that new jobs are sparse and hard to get. All this might be true, but there have always people who became successful even in difficult times.

You limit yourself by your thoughts, ideas and beliefs. Thoughts can be like shackles, tying you to the ground, and they can be like wings, taking you far away. It is your choice. A better life starts in the mind.

You might not be able to change you circumstances and the world around you, but you can change your inner, mental world. You can choose your thoughts, you can refuse to feel pity for yourself and picture problems and disasters, and you can fill your mind with positive thoughts and mental images.

All changes start in the mind, and you therefore need to change the way you think in order to improve your life. If you keep thinking about your current situation, of having no job and no money, you will get more despondent and unhappy and see more problems, because you focus on them, and do nothing to get out of this situation.

No matter how difficult it might be, stop your negative thinking. It will not cost you money to do so. A better life starts in the mind.

In your imagination, see yourself having a good job and earning money. Don’t say this is impossible. Believe what you are visualizing, enjoy the visualization, like you enjoy a good movie, and refuse the strong temptation to despair and say this is all nonsense.

When you focus on success you start seeing opportunities. You intuition becomes sharper, and people become more helpful. When you change your inner world of thoughts, your external world changes too, because your external world is the mirror of your inner world.

You can visualize and achieve your dreams. You can change your life, and it all starts in your mind.

How To Create The Life You Really Want

Positive Thinking in Difficult Times

Remez Sasson — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 07:17:05 +0000

It is rather easier to feel positive when everything goes well, but real positive thinking is revealed when you can maintain it difficult times. It is then that you need it most.

In difficult times, when there are problems and the economic condition is tough, it is so easy to get into negative thinking and self-pity, and be sucked into a vicious circle of worries, fears and the expectation of more problems, lack of money or poverty.

You may read books and articles on positive thinking, and believe that you are positive, but when difficulties and rough times appear, you just forget everything and focus on the problems and difficulties, instead of believing in yourself, looking for solutions and seeking and seizing opportunities.

If you have no job, no money and the future looks bleak you might:

Indulge in self-pity and feel bad and helpless.
Indulge in worries and fears and expect more problems.
Become resentful and angry at the world and at successful people.
Be sad and focus on your problems.

Does this attitude help you in anything? No, it will only get you deeper into problems, because when you see and expect problems you create more problems. This is where positive thinking and positive attitude are required. It is true, it is not so easy to reject negative thinking in such circumstances, and even if you try, you might find yourself again and again reverting to negative thinking and dwelling on your problems.

If you have lost your way in a forest, will thoughts about your predicament help you? If you just sit down on a rock, and think and imagine that you will never find your way out help you in any way?

If you have failed, lost money or your job, will thinking how bad your condition is help you find a new job or earn money?

Wherever you are now, whatever your situation is, there is always a way out. This might require a different way of thinking, a different approach or developing new skills. Forget the past, as you cannot change it, but you can change your present, and when you change your present, you also change your future.

Keeping a positive attitude, expecting the best, striving to do the best and refusing to indulge in self-pity, negative thinking and worries is the road to a better and happier life.

Here are a few articles that will help you develop positive attitude and thinking:
The Power of Positive Thinking
Positive Thinking Your Key to Success

Books with practical information, advice and guidance:
Visualize and Achieve
Affirmations – Words of Power

Negative Thinking and Failure

Remez Sasson — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 07:45:50 +0000

Negative thinking is an obstacle to happiness, improvement and success. It causes laziness, low self-esteem and unhappiness, and is the number one reason for failure.

In her book, Slimming Starts in the Mind, Dorina Sasson addresses the problem of negative thinking, and provides solutions and advice on how to substitute negative thinking with positive thinking. Here is an excerpt from her book, where she writes about negative thinking and failure:

Negative thinking anticipates failure

I am sure that you are familiar with the term “Negative thinking”. It is a mental attitude of dwelling on negative thoughts, and letting fear, lack and worries run your life.

People who are prone to negative thinking use phrases such as:
· Nothing comes easy in life.
· It is too good to be true.
· This good cannot last long, something will eventually go wrong.

· I will apply for a better position, but I have no chance of getting it.
· Why bother, it’s in my genes to fail.
· I am not talented enough to win this scholarship.

· I would never be able to afford myself a trip to Paris.
· Living in a fancy house will always be just a dream.
· I may as well get used to what I have, because it won’t get any better.

If you anticipate misfortune, failure and disappointment, you will most probably refrain from taking any initiative and action, in order to avoid possible negative results. However, if you choose to be passive and take no action, you deprive yourself the chance of gaining success.

The tendency to negative thinking is not something one is born with; it is usually acquired from a negatively oriented environment, and is often transferred on from parents to children. Luckily, through awareness and training, one can learn to think in a positive manner, and consider failure, as a temporary step on the ladder to success.

Why Positive Thinking Is Not Working

Remez Sasson — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:35:11 +0000

People often ask me why positive thinking does not work for them. Here is an email message I have received recently:

“I’ve been trying this whole positive thinking thing for about 2 years now with no results. Things actually seen to be getting worse. I’m up to my neck in debt and my health isn’t the greatest. I watched “The secret” and thought, “wow”, but after a while of really trying to change my thought patterns, I had to give up on it.”

Why does this happen?

Like everything in life, positive thinking requires constant training. You need to try again and again until you succeed. Rarely things change overnight.

Usually, when people first hear about positive thinking and how it can change their lives, they get excited and elated, but if they don’t see immediate results, they often get disappointed and discouraged and lose any faith in positive thinking.

To make it work for you, you need to make it your predominant mental attitude, and not something you think about only now and then. It is not enough to be positive for a few minutes and negative for the rest of the day.

The mind doesn’t like to change its thinking patterns, and often subconsciously sabotages the attempt for positive thinking. You might succeed in maintaining a positive attitude for a little while, but the mind will often revert to its old thinking patterns, without you even being aware of this. You have to be patient, persevering and attentive to your thoughts, and whenever being aware of negative, depressing or discouraging thoughts, consciously replace them with opposite positive and happy thoughts. This has to be a constant practice.

There is some kind of wrong concept relating to anything that has to do with personal and spiritual growth. As these subjects deal with emotions, thoughts, mind and spirit, which are not tangible, people wrongly think that there are no rules and laws here, and just thinking or believing in some kind of theory is going to change their lives. This is not so. The same rules and laws required for learning a new language or a new trade, building a business or bodybuilding apply here too.

To get real results, you also need to act on the physical level, do things, work, study and take advantage of new opportunities that can help you accomplish your desire, and not just think some positive thoughts for a few minutes, and wait for miracles to happen without doing a thing.

To make positive thinking work, you need to stay motivated, and have a strong desire to accomplish what you are after.

To make positive thinking work, you need to be willing to do whatever it takes to get what you want, and not stay passive and wait for things to happen.

Are You a Victim of Negative Thinking?

Remez Sasson — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 14:11:46 +0000

Are you a victim of negative thinking? Do you feel upset, down, disappointed or frustrated? Do you find yourself thinking on problems, failure, obstacles or bad health? Do you worry a lot?

If you let negative thoughts invade into your mind, you are actually surrendering your mastery over your life. You are letting these negative thoughts rule your life. Just consider how much time and energy you spend on worries, fears or anxiety! It is just wasted time and energy.

If you do nothing to prevent negative thinking, its power over you will grow, which means that you will expect failure and problems, and therefore will not try to improve your life.

The best way to prevent negative thinking is to focus on its opposite, on positive thinking. Don’t fight your negative thoughts, because this means you will focus on them, making them stronger. Better focus on solutions, on finding a way out, on positive mental images and on doing things and taking action.

Remember, your feelings and thoughts, actions and reactions are the mirror of your thoughts. This means you have to be careful with what you think, because your thoughts program your subconscious mind and affect your behavior.

Also remember, thinking on what you do not want will not take it away, it will keep it in your mind, awakening corresponding feelings and emotions, and consequently develop habits and behavior patterns that might bring what you don’t want into your life.

How can you change your thinking and make it positive? You can do so through affirmations, visualization and meditation. It is not difficult to do. Just take one step at a time and your thinking will gradually change.

Below you will find some books with practical information and guidance:

Learn how to affirm
Learn about visualization
Learn to make your mind positive and peaceful