Top Seven Self Improvement Myths

Self Improvement MythsOne of the many wonders of the digital age is that it’s never been easier to locate advice on how to live a happier, more productive life. A seemingly never ending library of self-help literature is now just a Google search away.

The only problem with the wealth of information available online is that not all of it is true. Just about anyone can call themselves a life coach. And literally anyone can call themselves a self-help blogger.
The result is a lot of self-help advice that isn’t necessarily all that helpful.

Should you find yourself embarking upon a self-improvement journey, an excellent place to start is therefore learning just whose advice you shouldn’t be listening to. Here are seven of the most popular self-help myths currently circulating online.

Needless to say, they should all be ignored.

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Underachiever

In 1999, my five-year-old nephew sat in the bleachers with my family members and attended my high-school graduation at a local college stadium. Last night, I attended my now 17-year-old nephew’s graduation at the same location.

I’m 31 now, and watching his graduation experience thirteen years later was surreal. As I’m sitting in the bleachers, I couldn’t help but think back to thirteen years ago when it was me walking the stage to receive my diploma.

I was excited for my nephew, but at the same time I was disappointed. I was disappointed in myself and my lack of success, both professionally and personally. I never knew exactly what I wanted to do when I graduated high school, but I knew I’d eventually figure it out and become successful in whatever it was that I chose to do. I figured I’d have a great job making lots of money, a big house, a nice car, a wife and one or two kids.

The only thing that came to fruition was me owning a car. I have friends whom I grew up with that are in great careers, married with kids, and are also proud homeowners. All of these thoughts of disappointment are going through my head as the PA announcer is saying each kids name.

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Are You an Optimist or Pessimist?

Optimist or Pessimist

Are you an optimist or pessimist?

Do you know what is the difference between an optimistic person and one that is pessimistic?

I have recently heard someone saying that he is a pessimistic person, and therefore, has no expectations, and so, he never gets disappointed. Do you also think so?

I would like to clarify an important point about optimism. It is not an attitude of just believing everything would be all right, and doing nothing about. It is not just a state of belief.

Optimism means expecting success, a favorable outcome, and that things would turn well, but real and useful optimism should work together with being practical, and looking actively solutions, instead of waiting passively for things to happen.

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Is It Difficult to Think Positively?

Do you think it is difficult to think positively?

When you try to think positively, do all kinds of negative thoughts fill your mind?

Do you find it difficult to wish yourself good things?

Do you find it difficult to wish yourself success and happiness?

Does your mind refuse to think positively?

Do you feel and believe that success belongs only to other people?

Do you possess such a low self-esteem that you think and believe that you cannot achieve anything in your life?

Do you think positive thinking is useless, unpractical and leads nowhere?

You can change the way you think, but this requires some effort on your part.

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How to Get Your Head Above Water and Keep It There

You must have asked yourself many times, how to survive when there are financial problems, and how to get your head above water, and keep it there.

Positive thinking and visualization are a good solution, but the problem is that when you are in financial problems, and when there is a shortage of money, it is not so easy to think positively. Worries keep popping up, especially when you see the bills in front of you.

The solution is of course to be alert, and constantly, day after day, replace your worries and negative thinking with positive thinking.

Better still, to teach yourself positive thinking during the goods times, when it is easier to think positively, and much better it is, to learn and train yourself from an early age, but this is not always practical or possible.

How to get your head above water and keep it there?

A visitor to the website asked:

“It feels like my life has been on a downward spiral. I struggle to keep my head above water financially, and just as things seem to get back in line something else happens.

I realize that the most obvious answer is to stop worrying… but it’s not that easy when you see the bills in front of you, and you have no idea how to cover them.”

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Living One Positive Day

How about making an experiment with positive thinking? How about living one whole day thinking, talking and acting positively? Spend one day being completely positive, in thoughts, words and actions. If you feel any negative thoughts creeping in, then push them away and replace them with positive ones. On this day, speak positively. Use positive … Continue Reading…

Positive Thinking in Difficult Times

Positive ThinkingIt is rather easier to feel positive when everything goes well, but real positive thinking is revealed when you can maintain it difficult times. It is then that you need it most.

In difficult times, when there are problems and the economic condition is tough, it is so easy to get into negative thinking and self-pity, and be sucked into a vicious circle of worries, fears and the expectation of more problems, lack of money or poverty.

You may read books and articles on positive thinking, and believe that you are positive, but when difficulties and rough times appear, you just forget everything and focus on the problems and difficulties, instead of believing in yourself, looking for solutions and seeking and seizing opportunities.

If you have no job, no money and the future looks bleak you might:

  • Indulge in self-pity and feel bad and helpless.
  • Indulge in worries and fears and expect more problems.
  • Become resentful and angry at the world and at successful people.
  • Be sad and focus on your problems.

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Why Positive Thinking Is Not Working

People often ask me why positive thinking does not work for them. Here is an email message I have received recently:

“I’ve been trying this whole positive thinking thing for about 2 years now with no results. Things actually seen to be getting worse. I’m up to my neck in debt and my health isn’t the greatest. I watched “The secret” and thought, “wow”, but after a while of really trying to change my thought patterns, I had to give up on it.”

Why does this happen?

Like everything in life, positive thinking requires constant training. You need to try again and again until you succeed. Rarely things change overnight.

Usually, when people first hear about positive thinking and how it can change their lives, they get excited and elated, but if they don’t see immediate results, they often get disappointed and discouraged and lose any faith in positive thinking.

To make it work for you, you need to make it your predominant mental attitude, and not something you think about only now and then. It is not enough to be positive for a few minutes and negative for the rest of the day.

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