By Ruth Purple
Most of us would like to believe that when a love affair ends, it was because of the other party. Well, this isn’t usually the case. Taking an insight on what you have contributed to the downfall of your love affair is the first step in saving your relationship. Keep in mind that blaming others will only aggravate the problem, but taking self- accountability is the first step on how to save your a relationship.
Here are some signs that you are ruining your relationship.
1. Being loud and aggressive when making a point.
Keep in mind that the louder you get in making a point, the more your partner can’t hear you.
When you make an effort to raise your voice, you tend to forget the words you are trying to send making the whole scenario more chaotic and off the course.
Raising your voice when making a point is ruining your relationship, because when you’re loud and aggressive, and when you and your partner are emotional, it’s hard to come up with a solution.
Another point why being loud in making a point is ruining your relationship is because whatever you say might be dismissed as too emotional, rather than a rational point.
The first thing that you should do is be aware of your volume. Other couples send signals or give reminders when one partner is beginning to be loud. Others take a deep breath when the intensity of the discussion starts to become heavy, while others leave the room and cool- off and return when the temperament is all calm.