What is Anger and How to Overcome It
By Remez Sasson
Anger comes out as a response to feelings of dissatisfaction, frustration and unhappiness, which usually arise, when we dislike a person, an object or a situation.
It usually appears when we are unable to fulfill our wishes and desires, or when we are forced to do something we dislike doing or we would rather avoid. In such situations, the mind reacts by feeling unhappy and stressed, which leads to anger.
Day-to-day life confronts us with many situations, which can produce anger:
- Your partner, children or friends, often, say or do things that you don't like.
- You want to make yourself a cup of coffee, but discover that you run out of coffee.
- You arrive late to the station, and find that the bus or train has already left.
- You might need to talk to someone, whom you don't like.
- Your plans might not turn out as you wish they would.
All these, and other similar situations, can cause anger. The question is, do you have to react automatically or can you change your reaction and avoid anger? The truth is that you can learn to react differently
Anger is a most negative reaction, and should be avoided as much as possible, if you wish to progress on the path of self improvement. You cannot avoid all the situations that cause anger, however, with some training, you can learn to change your reactions and attitude. You can teach yourself not to get angry.
You need to be aware of the situations that could lead to anger, and be alert enough when you experience them.
You can overcome anger, but this requires some inner work. You don't have to react automatically, you can learn to act consciously and control your reactions.
8 Simple Tips to Overcome Anger
- When you feel uncomfortable and unhappy, stop what you are doing and visualize some pleasant mental scene from the past. Think of something that made you happy.
- When you feel that you are getting angry, breathe a few deep breaths. This will delay the anger and calm you down.
- Count slowly from one to ten. This will delay your angry reaction and weaken it.
- During your spare time, think about what anger leads to, and how worthwhile it is to avoid it.
- When feeling angry, drink some water. This has a calming effect on the body, emtions and the mind.
- Strive to be patient in your day-to-day life. As you become more patient, you will be slower to anger
- One of the best remedies to anger is emotional detachment. When you are emotionally detached you cannot get angry.
- Another way to avoid anger is to develop the habit of peace of mind. This orequires some training, but is most worthwhile skill.