“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.”
– Dorothy Thompson –
Are you like me constantly thinking, planning or worrying about the future and what it has in store? Do you think about your financial situation and if there will be enough money to live a decent life? Do you sometimes worry that you will be alone and unhappy? You are not alone.
These are only a few of the many questions that flood our minds daily and for which we have no answers. We have chosen to live our lives in fear. We have chosen to hold ourselves captive by the fear of the unknown.
It is fine to feel fear as it is a natural emotion, but fear was never meant to keep us from going after our dreams. Fear should be your motivator, not your downfall. Most of us are being held in bondage by fear.
Let go of all your fears and go out and live your life to it’s fullest. Make the decision today that you will no longer live in fear, but while you are working on achieving your goal you will enjoy life.
Here are a few tips that I practice that could help you to rid your life of fear.
1. Write down your fears
Writing down the things you are most afraid of will give you tangible evidence of the things you need to work on. Try to find out why you are so afraid of these specific things and if they are currently happening to you. If they aren’t, then they might never be a part of your future either. Do not be driven by your fears.
2. Live in the moment
Do not worry about the future, as your future is every minute you are alive, and if bad things are not happening to you, then they most likely won’t. This moment is all you have and this moment, believe it or not, is your future. You are living in the future as you live minute by minute. The trouble is you are looking at yourself 10, 20 years down the road, and not at your now.
3. Do not project your misery
When you spend your time worrying and fearing the unknown you are projecting your misery that you think you will have then, now. You are torturing yourself prematurely and without reason. If you are happy now, why then are you worrying about the day you won’t be happy? Live in the moment, because this moment is all you have and might be all you will ever have.
4. Tame your mind
If you allow your mind to take control of you, it will.
Your mind is like an untamed animal and must be restrained to remain under your control. You must discipline your mind to stay within the limits of what is good, positive and healthy. Do not allow your mind to take you places that you do not want to go. Stay on familiar grounds or places that bring you the happiness and the joy you want.
If you are beginning to feel sad, worried or fearful remove your mind from that place and go back to a place of tranquility, positive vibes and happiness.
5. Don’t shift the blame
It is nobody’s fault you are unhappy, sad, fearful and or worried. It is all yours. You choose to allow your mind to go to places you do not belong.
Just imagine you have suffered a bad divorce or broken relationship of any kind. The first thing you are going to say is why he or she did this to me? No, instead, ask yourself why am I doing this to me? Nobody is doing anything to you. You are the person in control of your emotions, and you are the one who is allowing yourself to feel this way.
6. The past is kind
The past is over. The pain and hurt are behind you. The past is very kind to us because it leaves. It is the past. Everything will be in the past some day. None of what you are currently going through will last forever, and in a few weeks, months or even a few years you will look back and it too will be in your past.
The past is very kinds as it keeps getting further and further away from you. The pain even though great is becoming a distant memory, and soon it will be remembered no more.
7. The future is amazing
The future is as bright as you want it to me. Think of the pain in your past and how wonderful you are feeling now, at this very moment. Isn’t it wonderful when you can feel this good? That is the reason the future must be viewed as wonderful and pleasant.
Whatever you want your future to be, live as though it is, because it can be, if you want it to be. The future is amazing and fabulous because it is here now.
We all fear of the unknown at some point or another in our lives, but none of us should allow those fears to keep us down. Overcome your fears by being courageous enough to pick yourself up when you hit rock bottom. Falling is not the end and doesn’t mean you are a failure. Quitting is failing.
About the Author
Rose Costas is a big believer in the power of facing your challenges head on, and that boldly wearing your scars can help others triumph over their own challenges. An accountant by profession with a passion for writing and blogging, Rose can help you to get back the fire that once burned within you. www.positiveattitudesforlife.com