“You can have whatever you want if you believe in yourself and keep your feet firmly planted in the ground.” A. J. McLean
Do you know that by believing you can, you can achieve anything you want? Have you ever taken the time to think how much you could achieve just by developing and maintaining that mind frame? Just by believing and remaining focused you can achieve all your dreams. Can you truly understand then how powerful you are?
I never truly understood that until I hit rock bottom. After wallowing in self-pity for three years, blaming everyone including myself, I woke up one morning and decided that enough was enough. I was not going to let anyone or anything stand in my way ever again. I later realized I was the one standing in my way.
I have been so much in recent years. Failed businesses after failed business and then I realized the reason I was failing was because I never believed in myself. I would work hard but because I lack the belief, things always seem to fall apart. I then began to doubt myself, and then, gave up. I was my own worst enemy.
I drafted a plan, set a time frame both long and short term and went to work. I am a work in progress, but I have seen so much growth since I changed my mind set.
I have found the secret to achieving my dreams. Working hard and remaining positive no matter what is going on. You too can achieve your dreams by changing your mindset as well.
Think of your life and all the misfortunes you have had so far. Have you ever given any thought to why those things happen or did you just accept it as how life was and moved on. Try to remember what your state of mind was when you were trying to get a new job. That was the job that would change your life and the life of your family members forever.
Were you thinking yes I am going to get the job because I am educated, intelligent, smart, have the necessary experience and above all I love people?
Maybe you were thinking all those things until you got to the interview. Did you start having doubts then? Maybe and maybe not.
How about after the interview, were you still as confident then or did you start questioning yourself and all the wonderful things you know you are? How about after waiting a few days and you haven’t heard from anyone? How was your confidence then? What were your thoughts?
It’s human nature to start having doubts when things don’t go our way. All your experiences and qualifications didn’t amount to much anymore. Negativity sets in, you were filled with fear, self-doubt, your confidence was at its lowest, and you felt horrible.
You need to be so confident that even if they said no to your application for a job you will move on feeling good about yourself knowing it was their lost and nothing having to do with you. You will look at the bright side and think that the job was never meant to be and that your job, the one that is right for you will be coming soon.
Being positive and having that positive mind frame is half the battle. A person who thinks positive thoughts will be happier, more fulfilled, healthier, achieve more and believe they can do almost anything. Your mind is very powerful. The popular saying “if you can think it, you can achieve it” is very true. It starts in your mind and once you decide that’s what you want nothing in the world can stop you but you.
Positive thinking is remaining positive in spite of everything that is going on in your life. If you expect to get the best out of life, then you will if you do not quit. Even when you have difficult times, you will continue to be positive and see the bright side of things. You have trained your mind to be positive, and it will always feed you positive information. What you put in your mind is what you will get out.
Your brain is similar to a computer. If you input positive things, you will in turn get positive information and solutions. If on the other hand if you input negative things you also get negative results.
Positive thinking is a choice
You choose to be positive, or you choose to be negative. No one is naturally positive or negative.
People wake up every day and decide what day they are going to have. Some will look at the day and decide that today will be the best day of their lives, and nothing can change that. It doesn’t matter what the weather is like or what demands people are making. While someone else will wake up, it rains and their entire day is ruined. It is how you want it to be. You are in control of your life and no one else.
When you are positive with a positive attitude you mind is clearer, and you can think of solutions to problems and find solutions that you wouldn’t have while being negative. You cannot have a negative mindset and expect to be able to come up with positive solutions. It doesn’t work that way.
What lesson has life taught you along the way that could help others?
About the Author
Rose Costa is the founder of Positive Attitudes for Life, a blog that inspires and motivate women who are starting over in life and need a boost in confidence to face the challenges ahead.
Rose is a big believer in the power of facing your challenges head on, and that boldly wearing your scars can help others triumph over their own challenges. She also believes you can have the life you want at any age if you are willing to face your fears with confidence.