How to Strengthen Your Willpower - Tips and Advice
By Remez Sasson
Willpower is an important skill that everyone needs, and is most useful in all areas of life. However, few possess a reasonable degree of it, and most people hardly do anything to improve it.
Most people are not born with strong willpower, but it is possible to improve it, like any other skill. If you do not possess a strong willpower, this could be due to three main reasons:
1. You do not know how to strengthen your willpower. This skill is not taught in schools, and most people don't even think about the possibility of improving it.
2. You want immediate results, with no effort, something that does not exist.
3. You think that it is not possible to strengthen your willpower, or that it requires too much time and effort.
Is it possible to strengthen the willpower?
Yes, it is possible, in the same way that you strengthen your muscles. With some training and exercises you can improve it a large extent.
Training and strengthening your willpower is not as tough and difficult as you might think. It can be fun, and is a most rewarding experience.
There are various ways and exercises to train it. One of them is doing whatever task or chore you have, immediately and without delay. It is a simple and effective technique. Just start acting without any procrastination, and regardless of how you feel at that moment and how busy you are.
You might feel lazy, and try to postpone carrying out the task for some other time. However, if you wish to make your willpower strong, this is the exact and right time to ignore the objections of your mind and set out to carry out the task.
This could be any task, such as washing the dishes, emptying the garbage can, sitting down to study for an examination, or to repair something at home.
The right way is to start small. If want to lift 50 KG at the gym, and you are not trained and strong enough, you will not be able to lift them. However, if you start with only a few kilograms, with training, you would gradually be able to lift more weight, and eventually, you might be able lift 50 KG.
So it is with willpower. As you work on increasing it, gradually, you would have more strength, and be able to do greater things.
There are various ways to increase your willpower, which you can read about at this website. This skill is useful for bodybuilding and for winning in sports. It is useful for losing weight, becoming assertive, carrying out decisions, being a leader, or achieving success in business or any other area.
How to Strengthen Your Willpower, "Starting Small"
Don't try to quit smoking immediately, on the first day, or starve yourself to death in order to lose weight quickly, because it probably won't work. You don't have yet enough "willpower muscles" to do so.
It is wiser to start with small and simple tasks, and gradually, as your willpower increases, try to carry out bigger tasks.
People want fast results, especially in this age of the Internet, computers and smartphones. It seems that the average attention span has become short, and the patience level is small. People say, "If I don't get what i want now, I won't try at all."
People expect to quit smoking now, lose weight now, and get rich now. That's not the right attitude if you want real results.
There are all kinds of products and methods that promise instant success with no effort on your part. However, not everything is available immediately like preparing a cup of instant coffee or pouring corn flakes into a dish for breakfast. Can you learn to fly a plane, build a bridge or become a successful writer instantly or in just 10 days? Everything worthwhile takes time and requires some effort, including willpower and inner strength.
You need to be patient, do a few exercises a day, and in time handle matters that require more willpower. As this skill gets stronger, you will be able to do things that seem impossible for you now.
How to Strengthen Your Willpower Muscles?
As said earlier, start with small and not so important tasks. This is like training your muscles with light weights at first.
I would like to suggest another kind of exercise.
If you feel thirsty, hungry, or feel the need to go to the bathroom while watching a movie on TV, don't tell yourself, "I'll wait until the commercial break". Get up immediately and go to drink, to eat, or to the bathroom. Get up, even if the movie is interesting and you might miss a few moments.
When you make a decision and carry it immediately, without any procrastination, you manifest willpower, and imprint on your mind the fact that you can make decisions and follow through with them, despite inner resistance. This is not a difficult thing to do and does not require any physical effort.
The more you practice this, and similar exercises and similar ones, the easier it becomes to practice them, and the more inner strength you acquire. In time, you will be able to do easily greater things that now seem impossible.
Gradually, you will find yourself taking on bigger tasks and actions to build your willpower muscles, and you will be able to practice them successfully. Soon, things that are impossible now would become possible and within your reach.
When Is the Best Time to Work on Increasing Your Willpower?
- Any time of the day and night is suitable for strengthening on improving your willpower.
- Whenever there is a task or chore to carry out, at work, at home, or at any other place or situation, strive to carry it out immediately, without any procrastination.
- Whenever you feel lack of motivation, a tendency to procrastinate, or laziness, it is a good time to get up and do what you need to do, despite the inner resistance.
I don't say it is easy, but is simple and most rewarding. You will get things done and feel satisfied, happy and strong afterwards.
Don't overthink when you need to do something, work, task, fixing something or studying, since this might lead to procrastination. However, use your reason and common sense when carrying out tasks, chores and the things you need to do.
You would be surprised at how great you would feel after exercising your willpower. You will be surprised to see how fast your willpower is growing, and how easy it would be to use it whenever you need it, for small tasks and goals, and for big tasks and goals.
Remember, when you learn how to strengthen your willpower, and keep working on increasing it, it would keep getting stronger, and you would be able to use it for every aim and purpose.
Quotes to Inspire You to Strengthen Your Willpower
"Many men and women in the world demonstrate great willpower and self-discipline in overcoming bad habits and the weaknesses of the flesh."
- Ezra Taft Benson
"Willpower is the key to success. Successful people strive no matter what they feel by applying their will to overcome apathy, doubt or fear."
- Dan Millman
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will."
- Mahatma Gandhi
"The will is the keystone in the arch of human achievement. It is the culmination of our complex mental faculties. It is the power that rules minds, men and nations."
- Thomas Parker Boyd
"The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will."
- Vince Lombardi