The Inner Dialogue
By Remez Sasson
Do you talk with yourself? When we hear people talking aloud with themselves, we consider it weird. But have you noticed that all people, with no exception, talk silently with themselves? This, we do not consider as odd or weird.
If someone hurts you in some way, or says something you do not like, what do you do?
You enact a whole scene of anger in your mind! You envision yourself talking angrily, shouting, and saying not so nice things.
Do you spend hours in such negative, destructive inner dialogues.
There is a continuous conversation going on in everyone's head. A lot of energy, time and attention are wasted on discussing small unimportant incidents. This conversation goes on from the moment of waking until falling asleep.
The inner dialogue continues while working, studying, reading, watching TV, talking, walking and eating. There is a constant judging of people, commenting on what is going on, planning, gossiping, and mental conversations with people you know or don't know.
These inner dialogues bring about a snowball effect. The more you conduct them, the more you become chained to them, unable to stop them. When the emotions are also evoked, more power, energy and attachment are added. This has an adverse effect on the behavior, judgment and general performance.
On many occasions, the inner dialogue is negative, and strengthens any negative attitude or behavior. Most people do not have enough faith in themselves and in their abilities, and therefore, they allow their mind to engage in negative inner dialogues.
The process and effect of these inner conversations is similar to affirmations. Constant thinking about the same subject, affects the subconscious mind, which consequently, accepts these thoughts and words and acts on them.
Negative inner dialogues bring negative results, and positive inner dialogues bring positive results.
You can use this process to your advantage
It is an automatic activity, which goes on whether you are aware of it or not. If you learn to become aware of it, you gain the ability to control it. You can turn it into a positive dialogue. If you do that, you come to realize that you have a mighty power in your possession. Try to be aware of your thoughts. Calmly watch what is going in your mind, even if after a few moments you might forget to do that.
The inner dialogue goes on, even when physically, you are engaged with something else. It is not so easy to mentally separate oneself from the thoughts and words the flow through the mind.
Over and over again, endeavor to keep your attention of what is going inside your head, and eventually you will be able to become aware of the inner dialogue for longer periods of times. Watching the mind and what is going on inside it develops detachment, and this makes it easier control of the mind and its chatter.
Whenever you catch yourself conducting a useless, futile conversation with yourself, stop it. Change it to something more useful and meaningful. Replace the subject, and the words. It is just like listening to a recording. Why not replace it with another recording that you like? Why let this recording play by itself? Change the words of the inner dialogue to positive ones, about good health, happiness and success.
There is another thing you can do, but this requires a certain degree of concentration and willpower. You can learn to stop this inner conversation, by ignoring it, and giving your mind a vacation. Why not let the mind rest for a little while, and enjoy some rest from the its incessant conversation. There will be more happiness and peace, when this dialogue is silenced.
It's okay to have an inner dialogue sometimes, but most of the time, it is just an incessant, useless chatter, which distracts the attention from what you are doing at the moment. By becoming aware of it, replacing it with positive thoughts, and refusing to become involved with it, you gain the ability to control it.
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