Do You Make Emotional Resolutions that Lack Willpower?
By Remez Sasson
Often, making resolutions, such as New Year resolutions, is an emotional act, which has nothing to do with willpower, decisiveness and inner strength. Such resolutions are made emotionally, without thinking and deliberation, and therefore, lack power and they do not last long.
Sometimes, in response to certain situations or events, we suddenly desire to achieve a certain goal or make changes in our life. We might even start enthusiastically doing something about those goals and changes. The problem is that after a while, the emotions calm down, and we quit what we have started, since we lack enough inner power and strength to proceed.
We often make resolutions and promises, and then try to change our behavior accordingly. We might begin to study, look for a job or seek a partner. We might start acting according to our resolutions, but this goes on only for a short while.
We start with much noise, but end in silence. We make resolutions enthusiastically and optimistically, but then we lose our enthusiasm and stop doing what we promised ourselves to do.
This kind of behavior shows lack of willpower and discipline, and makes us lose faith in our ability to use these skills and achieve our resolutions and promises. This might lead us to believe that willpower is just a myth, an unreal thing. This is an erroneous idea, because no real willpower was involved in making these resolutions.
As said earlier, most of the resolutions we make are triggered by emotions. We make them in response to some strong emotion or thought, and rarely because of deliberation, thinking and common sense.
The driving powers of our resolutions are often feelings and emotions, but feelings and emotions are not stable and not constant. One moment you might feel you can conquer the world, and a moment later you feel weak, lazy and lacking motivation, and everything seems so impossible to do.
A resolution made on the spur of the moment is usually useless.
The emotion that triggered the resolution might disappear a short while later, and there will be no desire left to carry on the resolution. Another important point to mention is that subconscious habits are stronger than any resolution, and they usually overcome any decision and desire for change.
All this might lead you to believe that you lack willpower and backbone, but these skills can be strengthened, like any other skill. Willpower is unreal, not an illusion. Your resolutions, as said, earlier, did not involve any willpower, but only temporary and fleeting emotions and desires.
Real willpower is something utterly different. You cannot expect a physically weak person to lift heavy weight, but if he trains himself regularly, he will get stronger. It is the same with the strengthening of the power of the will.
Real willpower is not dependent on feelings, emotions, temporary enthusiasm or optimism.
Willpower is an ability that is developed over a period of time, and can turn into a habit. After developing it, you will be able to use it whenever and wherever required.
Strengthening your willpower also strengthens your self-discipline, which is another important component, necessary for making resolutions and following them through, without stopping, until you accomplish them.
As a by product of strengthening your willpower and your self discipline, you also improve your concentration, perseverance, assertiveness, self-confidence. All this, enables you to make decisions with a balanced and calm mental attitude, and carry them out until their successful fulfillment.
Constant training of your willpower results in attaining a real power, which is always available to you. Then, you will be able to make real and lasting resolutions and follow them through. You will feel the happiness and satisfaction of achieving what you set out to do. You will not quit what you start doing, and therefore, you will save yourself disappointments.
Real willpower is like a master key, which you can use to open the doors leading to fulfillment and achievement .
If you are willing and ready to devote the necessary time to develop and strengthen your willpower, you will be highly rewarded. How far you will go in developing this important ability depends on how much time, effort and earnestness you are willing to invest.
Nowadays, people want immediate results. They lack the patience and the perseverance to improve themselves and develop the skills of willpower and self discipline. However, every achievement in life, and every important skill that can help you in your life requires patience and perseverance.
You need to decide, do you want inner strength? Do you want to master your life, or let circumstances and other people dictate how you live? Do you want to make emotional resolutions, which you will not follow, and then get disappointed, or make real and well-thought resolutions, and follow them through?
Do you lack willpower? This means that whatever decisions you make lack willpower, and you will not be able to carry them out. With just a little effort you can overcome this lack and improve your willpower. This would affect favorably your life in every era, not just in making resolutions and fulfilling them.
If you truly want to make a real changes in your life, learn to carry out your decisions, and possess the inner strength to carry out whatever you set out to do, you need willpower and also self-discipline. This not difficult at all and is within your reach.
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