Was the Past Really Better than the Present?

By Remez Sasson

Do you think that your life in the past was better than the present?

Do you miss the “good old days?”

Quite often people, not just old people, but people of all ages yearn to the past, believing it was a better time. They think and feel that their childhood, adolescence, and the time they were young was a great time. They think and believe that everything was better than it is now. This sometimes might be true, but not always. If you analyze these thoughts and feelings in an unprejudiced manner, you will arrive to the conclusion that your earlier years were not as great as you imagine. I have a certain theory about this, which I would like to share with you.

People do not yearn to the actual past, to past circumstances and situations, which sometimes were good, and sometimes not so good. They yearn to something else. They yearn to two things.

They yearn to the period when they were quite young, when they didn’t worry about money, work and possessions. They yearn to the times when they had no worries and problems, when grown up people took care of everything. It was a carefree period, and this is what they are missing now.

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What is Social Anxiety?

By David Bonham-Carter

Social anxiety, also sometimes known as social phobia, is a condition in which you experience high levels of anxiety about being criticised by or judged in a negative way by others. In some surveys as many as 10% of people have been found to suffer from the condition, although it was not commonly recognised as a form of anxiety disorder until the 1980s. If you suffer from social anxiety then you may experience some or all of the following:

  • Extreme worry that in public places such as at meetings, work or when shopping that other people will be watching you and finding fault with you
  • Severe feelings of inferiority or inadequacy and a sense that other people are more intelligent than you or that you have nothing to say to them that will be of value
  • Fear of going into a situation where you are expected to contribute to a discussion or give a presentation
  • Extreme sensitivity to criticism from others
  •  Physical symptoms such as sweating, blushing, stammering or shaking when thinking about having to take part in a situation about which you are nervous.
  • Perfectionist tendencies – believing that unless you to do something perfectly you have failed

What can you do to if you suffer from social anxiety?

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5 Ways of Finding Hope in Trying Times

By Herb Ammons

Do You Wonder How You Are Going to Make It Through Each Day?
5 Ways of Finding Hope in Trying Times

Have you lost sight of your hope? Do you wonder how you are going to make it through each day? If so, you are not alone.

Unfortunately, losing sight of your hope is much easier to do than you might realize. It can be devastating when it happens. Suddenly it seems as though you are in the dark and unable to find your way to the light.

However, it does not have to stay like that. You can find your way again and get yourself to a healthier and happier mindset. The question is, how do you go about doing that?

1. The truth is that no magical answer will instantly reinstate your lost feelings. You are going to have to do some work to revitalize that feeling in yourself. The good news is that you can get it back, but it may take a bit of time. The key is to stay focused on the fact that you are going to be able to find it again.

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Passive Concentration Versus Active Concentration

By Remez Sasson

As you know, concentration is very important in everyone’s life, and it is one of the main reasons for success or failure in all areas of life.

Most people find it difficult to focus their mind. However, there are times when they do concentrate, but this is a passive concentration. Let me explain.

When you read a fascinating book, do you sometimes forget everything else, and get completely immersed in the book?

When you watch a good movie or a good show, do you sometimes become oblivious to everything else, even to hunger, your chores, or to the people around you?

When you are engaged in an activity that you like very much, do you forget about the time, and it seems to pass very fast?

At such times you can ignore thoughts, noises, people, pain and problems. It is as if the activity you are engaged it, draws your whole attention, without any effort on your part. This is passive concentration.

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Are You Dreaming Big?

By Melissa McCreery, Ph.D.

So many people have wonderful dreams that are buried just beneath the surface – a book they’d love to write, a business venture they’d like to pursue, a race they’d like to sign up for, or a trip they want to take.

If only.

If only they had: more time, more motivation, more get-up-and-go. If only they weren’t so busy, or if only they had–more money, more connections, more support. If only they could get organized, or if only they could get some time to think. If only they could figure out the first steps.

Here’s what I know:

1. The bigger we allow ourselves to dream, the more we accomplish and the more we start to see what is possible.

2. We don’t have to be any more amazing than we already are to do amazing things.

3. We don’t have to know exactly how we are going to make our dream come true in order to start pursuing it. But we do need to HAVE the dream. We do need to have a clear intention that we’re going to do whatever-it-is and we do have to create space in our life for our dreams to emerge.

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