Why people are unhappy?
Do you feel unhappy or happy most of the time?
Both unhappiness and happiness have a strong impact on our emotional well-being.
Unhappiness tends to creep into our lives whenever we start feeling like something is missing from our lives. It can happen at any moment and it doesn’t require much of an excuse either.
If you start questioning why you feel unhappy for no apparent reason, it might be time to start asking yourself some deeper questions about your life and your emotions. The truth will set you free sooner than you think.
People who are happy tend to focus on the things they do have. In other words, instead of worrying about not having enough money or not being able to find a partner, people who are happy tend to look at all the amazing things that they do have in life.
There is always something good that can come from any situation, good or bad. It’s a matter of attitude.
What Do People Feel Unhappy About?
Why people are unhappy? What causes them to feel unhappy?
If you feel unhappy, it’s worthwhile to dig a bit deeper and find out what is really bothering you.
In order to do this, the first step is to be honest with yourself. In other words, you need to be brave and self-aware enough to look at what is really going on inside of you.
If you feel unhappy that you don’t have a high-paying job or not getting promoted, it might be worth thinking about why this is bothering you. Maybe you are not doing your best, or maybe you are not appreciated enough. This can be remedied with a good plan, or you just can seek a new job.
This is true with any other situation that is making you unhappy.
Unhappiness is due to dissatisfaction, bad health, bad relationship, failure or too high expectations.
Steps to Stop Feeling Unhappy and Bring Happiness into Your Life
There are various things you can do to stop the unhappiness habit, such as substituting negative thinking with positive thinking, striving to smile more often, or practicing meditation on a regular basis.
Exercising, watching comedies or even reading inspiring quotes can change your mood and bring more happiness into your life.
Since we have covered the above topics in other of our articles and books, we will focus here on simple 5 steps to overcome the unhappiness habit and build up the happiness habit.
1. Finding Purpose in Life and Connecting with Others
Unhappiness is often caused by a lack of meaning and purpose in life.
You might think that you’re unhappy because you’re not achieving enough or because you don’t have the money or things to satisfy you.
However, this is often not the case. In fact, if you are unhappy while you have food, shelter and enough money, you are probably unhappy with your life. Happiness, often has no relation to your status or success in life.
The only way to find greater meaning and purpose in life is to look at it differently. There are always things you can do that are meaningful, even if they might not seem so at the moment.
For example, you can volunteer at a local charity, you can learn a new skill or you can spend time with family and loved ones. You can write, you can paint, or join a gym.
Being busy doing something you love and enjoy brings happiness into your life.
2. Develop Self-Esteem and Resilience
If you are unhappy, it might be worth thinking about the way you tend to view yourself and your life. Unfortunately, a lot of research has found that many people who are unhappy have a low self-esteem.
The problem with low self-esteem is that it is often a sign that you don’t feel good about yourself.
Self-esteem is an important part of emotional well-being. It can help you to feel good about yourself and your life. When you feel good about yourself, you are far less likely to feel unhappy and trapped.
There is no shame in working on your self-esteem. It is important to develop a positive mindset and to work on finding strengths and talents that are unique to you.
3. Find and Keep Friends Who Support You
If you are unhappy and lonely, it might be worth looking at the way you relate to other people. In many cases, people who feel unhappy and alone tend to think that they are not good enough to have friends.
However, this is rarely the case. You might be trying to be someone that you are not and this can cause you a lot of pain inside.
In order to reduce the amount of pain that you feel, it’s important to be authentic and to stay true to who you are. This means being true to your values, beliefs, strengths and weaknesses.
Once you start staying true to yourself, you will find that you feel more at ease with friends, and that they respect you more.
This is important because it means that you are far more likely to find people who are happy to spend time with you. You will be more likely to find and keep friends who support you, and with whom you will feel comfortable.
4. Develop the Happiness Habit
If you are unhappy, it’s worth considering whether you are doing things in your life to make you feel happy. In other words, is there anything that you can do that will bring you happiness?
When you start changing your perspective and taking steps to find happiness, you will notice a difference almost immediately.
It is important to think about what you are doing to find happiness. This might include doing something that involves connecting with others, volunteering, learning something new, exercising, meditating or making art.
Anything you do that fires your interest, enthusiasm and passion can lead to greater happiness. New hobbies, travel, reading or developing new skills can increase your happiness.
To a great extent, happiness is a choice. You can choose to feel happy, even when there are problems and difficulties around you. This might not be easy, but it is possible, and the rewards are great.
5. See the Good in Every Situation
It’s not so easy to see the good in every situation when you are frustrated and unhappy. In such situations, that mind tend to see the bad and the difficulties.
When you focus on failure, frustration, disappointment and anger, you make them grow. You feed them with your attention.
When you give water to plants, they grow and blossom. When you do not give them water, they wither. It’s the same with thoughts and emotions.
This means that you need to do your best, no matter how difficult it is, to see the good in every situation, and focus on it.
Unhappiness has an adverse effect on the well-being of everyone. That’s why you need to develop the happiness habit.
If you feel unhappy, it’s worth thinking about the things that are bothering you and whether you are doing something to change them or change your attitude toward them.
What you focus on grows, therefore you need to focus on the good things, on positive attitude and positive thinking.
External events might not always be to your liking, but you can change your attitude toward them. Unwelcome things might still happen, but you can learn not to let them affect your happiness.