It is well known that work is one of the main reasons for stress and unhappiness. Sometimes you need to work hard and stay over time, you might have a tough boss, or you might not like the people you work with.
You might have dreams, but they stay as dreams, since you need money and have to work. You need to pay the mortgage and you need to support your family.
All these reasons cause stress and unhappiness.
What can you do in these circumstances? You can leave your job, but it is not always reasonable to do so, and you have no guarantee that your next job would not be the same.
If you want to seek another job, that’s okay, but if you have a mortgage and a family to support, you will not just leave your job just because of stress at work.
You need to develop the power to resist the stress at work. You need to learn to let go.
If you cannot change a situation, you need to let go of anger, resentfulness, and negative thoughts and feelings. By letting them go, you free yourself of them, and all the stress and unhappiness they cause.
You need to get loosen your involvement with the thoughts, feelings and reactions that are holding you down and causing you suffering and stress. It means letting go and detaching yourself from them, so they will have no power over you and cannot affect your state of mind.
Why you need to let go, and how is it going to help you at your job? Read on to find out.
5 Reasons Why You Need to Let Go at Work
1. Living under stress weakens your physical health, harms the immune system, and makes you feel tired and exhausted. You don’t want to harm your health, do you?
2. A remark from your boss or from a colleague might wreck your whole day, make you think over and again about the words said, and analyze why they were said. These words, inflamed by your thinking and emotions can create stress, anger and unhappiness. You need to let go, otherwise you are causing yourself unnecessary suffering.
3. Can you control what an angry or unsatisfied customer says? No, you can’t, but you can control your reaction. You can choose to get angry, resentful and stressed, or you can choose not to let his or her words affect you. You can choose to let go of the incident, learn from it, and move on, and you can dwell on it, inflate it out of any proportion, occupy your mind with it, and create anger, stress and suffering.
4. If you do not like your job, will thinking about it help you in any way? If you are going to stay in your job, why continue to create suffering for you? Letting go of the negative thoughts about your work will do you good and make you feel better and happier.
5. You didn’t get the promotion you expected, the bonus promised or cubicle or room you wanted? Did you have some disagreement with one of the people that work with you?
Overthinking and dwelling about these, and similar work issues, will take your peace of mind away. Do you want that?
You need to let go of all the negative and unhappy thoughts and emotions that rise, even if this is difficult and you feel agitated. You don’t need them. They are like an anchor that keeps your mind and feelings fixed on the unhappy incident.
Do you want external events to control your life? Do you want to allow other people’s thoughts, words and behavior to decide how you feel? I am sure you don’t.
Letting go does not mean giving up. It means letting go, leaving and getting free from negative thoughts and emotions, overthinking, and dwelling on what you believe hurt you.
Letting go of what makes you suffer at work, requires a certain degree of detachment. This would set your mind and emotions free. This is true in all areas of life, not just work.
There are various tools to help you let go, such as repeating affirmations, using visualization and meditation. Another very useful and most helpful tool is detachment. I have covered this topic and provided instructions, advice and guidance about it, in my book about emotional detachment.