By Remez Sasson
Do you tend to hold grudges or do you forgive people who have hurt you, or whom you think have hurt you?
Forgiveness requires inner strength that not everyone possesses. Feelings often stand in the way of forgiveness, veiling judgment and common sense.
Often, people feel hurt, when no one even tried to hurt them, because they misinterpret people’s words and actions.
If you don’t forgive:
- Thoughts and feelings disturb your mind, preventing inner peace.
- You become unhappy.
- You become resentful.
- You become negative.
You can continue this list if you wish.
Forgiveness shows maturity, common sense, compassion and a noble character.
If you are able to forgive:
- You gain inner peace.
- You free your mind of incessant negative thinking.
- You don’t let thoughts and feelings rule your actions and reactions.
- You don’t let people and external circumstances control your life.
- You open new doors to better things in your life.
How can you forgive people, and is it possible to forgive everything? Forgiveness is a process that takes some time. Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that you accept what people said or did, even if it is a really bad thing that they did.
Forgiveness means that you stop thinking negative thoughts and being obsessed and disturbed by the incident that made you feel being hurt. It means that you clear your subconscious mind of the hurt feelings. It also means that you clear your mind of any hate, resentment or anger toward the person that hurt or seemingly hurt you.
How can you learn to forgive?
- Be more aware of your thoughts and feelings.
- Don’t take everything too personally.
- Try to be more emotionally and mentally detached.
- Develop some concentration ability, as this will enable you to choose your thoughts and feelings.
- Meditation would also help you be more forgiving.
- Try to show more love and compassion.
- Let go of the past. Don’t let it hold you back.
Holding grudges, resentment or anger, is like being tied to a chain that limits your actions and thinking. It means that you allow others to control your mind and your life.
Forgiveness equals inner freedom. Forgiveness is another important step toward spiritual growth.
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Remez Sasson is an author and blogger. He is the founder of SuccessConsciousness.com, a website and blog about self improvement and spiritual growth.
Remez Sasson is the author of several life transforming books, containing a wealth of information, advice and guidance.
So it is. But … it is equally important, and even more difficult, to forgive what you perceive as “yourself” as it is to forgive those you perceive “as others”.
It’s better to look at our self thoughts if we found that they are wondering about the cause. then forgiveness will take us out of that situation. so that we can concentrate on more critical issues.
As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he Proverbs 23:7. The ability to not forgive is a result of man (woman) not forgiving themselves. Our present and future state is dependent on the condition of our heart.
An affirmation (Only if you believe):
I Am healed, whole and complete in my heart so therefore my experience manifests my being.
Indeed. Thanks for the post! The fact is to forgive is a hard thing to do.
Its true that holding on to humiliations, back stabbings, lies etc. hurts, its also true that forgiveness is better and forgetting is best but its too difficult though not impossible. Forgiving the same person for same actions every week almost really comes on to the nerves. Any way, article is refresher. Thanks…
When you identify with the other and feel that he/she is not perfect just as you are not perfect, then it is much easier to forgive. Those who cannot forgive have the ‘holier than thou’ attitude. Nobody is perfect though everyone tends towards perfection. Holding a grudge adds needlessly to create a negative atmosphere
forgiveness is something so powerful, it cleanses you and gives you inner peace that surpasses all understanding. it frees you from bondage and liberates you.