Look at the people around you, and you will discover that almost everyone seems to get emotionally involved with other people’s pains and problems. They get involved, and get affected, not only by close people, but also with the problems of strangers too.
Look, for example, at how parents feel in relation to their children. They get anxious and stressed by whatever happens to them at school and with friends. Sometimes, this goes too far, making the parents nervous, restless and tense. This is an unhealthy situation, draining their strength and energy, and preventing them from having a sound sleep at night.
We care not only about our children, but also about other family members, about friends, and about colleagues.
That’s okay, as long as you don’t cause yourself unnecessary emotional pain. Too much empathy does not help anyone and it does not help you.
Be caring, loving and helpful. It is possible to do so, without burdening yourself with other people’s feelings.
You might say that you need to sympathize and empathize. Yes, you are right, but only up to a certain point.
A certain amount of empathy is okay, but when it becomes exaggerated it causes unnecessary emotional pain and suffering.
You need to realize that everyone has his or her own life, with its ups and downs, and things he or she has to deal with in order to grow and get stronger. You don’t need to solve everyone’s problem. What makes you think that you can do it better than them?