Too Much Empathy Does Not Help Anyone

Look at the people around you, and you will discover that almost everyone seems to get emotionally involved with other people’s pains and problems. They get involved, and get affected, not only by close people, but also with the problems of strangers too.

Look, for example, at how parents feel in relation to their children. They get anxious and stressed by whatever happens to them at school and with friends. Sometimes, this goes too far, making the parents nervous, restless and tense. This is an unhealthy situation, draining their strength and energy, and preventing them from having a sound sleep at night.

We care not only about our children, but also about other family members, about friends, and about colleagues.

That’s okay, as long as you don’t cause yourself unnecessary emotional pain. Too much empathy does not help anyone and it does not help you.

Be caring, loving and helpful. It is possible to do so, without burdening yourself with other people’s feelings.

You might say that you need to sympathize and empathize. Yes, you are right, but only up to a certain point.

A certain amount of empathy is okay, but when it becomes exaggerated it causes unnecessary emotional pain and suffering.

You need to realize that everyone has his or her own life, with its ups and downs, and things he or she has to deal with in order to grow and get stronger. You don’t need to solve everyone’s problem. What makes you think that you can do it better than them?

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How to Get Your Head Above Water and Keep It There

You must have asked yourself many times, how to survive when there are financial problems, and how to get your head above water, and keep it there.

Positive thinking and visualization are a good solution, but the problem is that when you are in financial problems, and when there is a shortage of money, it is not so easy to think positively. Worries keep popping up, especially when you see the bills in front of you.

The solution is of course to be alert, and constantly, day after day, replace your worries and negative thinking with positive thinking.

Better still, to teach yourself positive thinking during the goods times, when it is easier to think positively, and much better it is, to learn and train yourself from an early age, but this is not always practical or possible.

How to get your head above water and keep it there?

A visitor to the website asked:

“It feels like my life has been on a downward spiral. I struggle to keep my head above water financially, and just as things seem to get back in line something else happens.

I realize that the most obvious answer is to stop worrying… but it’s not that easy when you see the bills in front of you, and you have no idea how to cover them.”

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How to Clear the Mind of Thoughts

A website visitor has recently asked the following question: “So you are saying once our mind is cleared, we start experiencing inner peace, but what is the most important thing to do to clear your mind? I have read a lot at many websites, but still can’t understand the subject.” There is no instant inner peace. … Continue Reading…