People often ask me why positive thinking does not work for them. Here is an email message I have received recently:
“I’ve been trying this whole positive thinking thing for about 2 years now with no results. Things actually seen to be getting worse. I’m up to my neck in debt and my health isn’t the greatest. I watched “The secret” and thought, “wow”, but after a while of really trying to change my thought patterns, I had to give up on it.”
When this happens, you are probably not doing it right. The number one reason for failure is that you are too focused on your problems and not on finding solutions. Reading books and articles and watching movies is not enough. You need to take action too, spend effort and strive to succeed.
For positive thinking to work and produce results it is not enough to say a few positive words, daydream for a few minutes, or expect for things to change without doing anything. Positive thinking requires sustained positive action, even when there are obstacles and difficulties.
Why Sometimes, Positive Thinking Does not Work?
You might think that you have been positive, and yet, you feel that things are not improving.
Like everything in life, positive thinking requires persistence and perseverance. You need to try again and again until you succeed. Rarely things change overnight.
Usually, when people first hear about positive thinking and how it can change their lives, they get excited and elated, but if they don’t see immediate results, they often get disappointed and discouraged and lose any faith in positive thinking.
To make it work for you, you need to make it your predominant mental attitude, and not something you think about only once in a while. It is not enough to be positive for a few minutes and negative for the rest of the day.
The mind doesn’t like to change its thinking patterns, and often, subconsciously, it sabotages the attempt to think positivly.
You might succeed in maintaining a positive attitude for a little while, but the mind will often revert to its old thinking patterns, and you might not be aware of this. You might be positive for a few minutes a day, but negative for the rest of the day. This will nullify and cancel your positive thoughts.
You have to be patient, persevering and attentive to your thoughts, and whenever being aware of negative, depressing or discouraging thoughts, consciously replace them with opposite positive and happy thoughts. This has to be a constant practice.
There is some kind of an erroneous thinking relating to anything that has to do with personal and spiritual growth. As these topics deal with emotions, thoughts, mind and spirit, which are not tangible, people wrongly think that there are no rules and laws here, and that just reading or believing in some kind of theory is going to change their lives.
This is not so. The same rules and laws required for learning a new language or a new trade, building a business or bodybuilding, apply here too.
To get real results, you also need to act on the physical level, do things, work, study and take advantage of new opportunities that can help you accomplish your desire.
Being positive inspires, motivates and encourages, and is most important, but you should not do it just for a few minutes, but for the whole day, and it should be backed by action.
To make positive thinking work, you need to stay motivated, and constantly nourish your ambitions.
To make positive thinking work, you need to be willing to do whatever it takes to get what you want, and not stay passive and wait for things to happen.