Can You Stop Using Your Cell Phone for One Hour?

Cell PhoneBy Remez Sasson

Are you attached to your cell phone, unable to leave it aside for a few minutes?

Can you travel by bus or train, or wait in line, without texting with your cell phone?

Do you always want to know what your friends are saying, or tell them where you are?

What can happen, if for just one hour you stop your curiosity?

Suppose you were on a small island for the next 24 hours with no cell phone at all? Can you survive?

Look around you, and you will see people in the train or the bus, in an elevator or at a restaurant, with their gaze fixed on this small instrument in their hands, oblivious to what is happening around them. It became an extension of their personality and their body.

If once, many years ago, people worshiped gods, now they worship the cell phone.
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You Don’t Have to Participate in the Drama People Create

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By Remez Sasson

A few days ago, I came across the following saying:
“Just because someone invites you to drama, doesn’t mean you have to attend.”

This is so true, but sadly, an advice not frequently followed.

  • How many times have you been drawn into the drama someone created?
  • How many times you got too involved with other people’s problems or negative thinking?
  • How many times you felt manipulated by the drama people created?
  • How many times you felt exhausted and tired after such situations?
  • How many times you said things you shouldn’t say, when forced into emotional situations?

I daresay many times. And each time, you tell yourself that you wouldn’t let yourself get involved in such a situation anymore, but yet, you get involved again.

Next time, someone “invites” you into drama, telling you about their health and other problems, sharing their negative thoughts, worries or fears, or just criticizing or emotionally manipulating you, wait for a moment before reacting.

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Achieving Success Requires Patience and Persistence

By Remez Sasson

Patience and Persistence“Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence. “- Hal Borland

If you read attentively the above quote, you will learn a lot about patience and persistence, and with a little deeper thinking, you will see their importance in your life.

Trees need time to grow, and therefore, they symbolize patience.

It is the same with you. You need time to achieve goals, especially big goals, and this requires patience. If you are too impatient, desiring to have immediate results, you might be disappointed and quit your goal.

You have to study, improve yourself, change your mindset, and work toward your goal. You have to water your goal with ambition, motivation and effort, so that it will come true, just as you need to water a tree.

Most trees need years to grow and become big trees. Big goals also need time, and you therefore, need patience, just like a tree.

If you don’t possess enough patience, you need to develop it. It is a skill that can be developed like any other skill.
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Developing the Strength within You

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By Remez Sasson

Do you sometimes feel that you don’t have the strength to act with resolution and strength?

Do you feel helpless in certain situations?

Do you feel that people often take advantage of you, and you cannot resist them?

Are you shy or lack self-confidence in certain situations, at work, at home, or anywhere else?

There are various reasons for this state of affairs, and all of them point to a lack of inner strength. This often causes unhappiness and lack of motivation, and can lead to negative habits, such as procrastination, lack of perseverance, low self-esteem, and lack of self-confidence.

However, this situation can be corrected, but you need to make the decision to change it, and be willing to undertake the inner work that this involves.

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Do You Finish What You Start? Self Discipline – Perseverance

By Remez Sasson

Do you finish what you start? Do you possess enough inner strength to go through with what you start doing?

How many times have you started to do something with enthusiasm and energy, and then lost your enthusiasm and energy after a while?

How many times have you made promises to yourselves and to others, with the intention of following them through, only to forget about them after some time?

Sometimes, we don’t finish what we start, because we realize that:

  • We don’t really want what we started doing.
  • It requires too much time or money, than what we are willing to invest.
  • We realize that there are more important things we want.
  • We have a gut feeling that this is not the right thing to do.
  • Quite often, we make promises and start doing things without prior thinking and analysis. We start doing things due to temporary enthusiasm, in response to something we saw or heard, but when the enthusiasm wanes, so does the desire to follow through.

In all these cases, and other similar ones, our decision to quit what we are doing might be justified sometimes, and unjustified at other times. The problem starts when quit, due to lack of self-discipline and perseverance. If we lack self-discipline and perseverance, how can we achieve anything, even small minor, everyday tasks?

How do you feel when time after time you quit because you lack self-discipline and perseverance? Do you feel frustrated? Do you lose faith in yourself to do things?

The good news is that you can develop these two important inner assets:

  1. Think before you take action. Many of the projects we quit, we start without thinking and analyzing their usefulness.
  2. Make your priorities before you start. What is more important now?
  3. Whenever you feel that you are losing enthusiasm and interest, think about and visualize the benefits, and how what you are doing will benefit and improve your life, and other people’s lives.

I won’t tell you, “Stick with what you are doing, no matter what”, because if you need to be told this sentence, it means you lack self discipline and perseverance, and these words won’t help you. You will need to develop these skills, but how can you do so, if you cannot finish what you start? This is a vicious circle situation. You need some measure of self-discipline, and also a strong incentive to start. How can you develop self-discipline and perseverance, if you lack the ability to persevere?

The solution is to start with simple exercises designed to develop self-discipline and perseverance, and with tasks that you can accomplish quickly. By acting in this way you build self-confidence and faith in yourself, and you will gradually be able to do things that require more effort. In time, you will be able to use the skills you develop, to follow and persevere with any plan, project, goal or resolution.

I will not mention these exercises in this article, since I have written about them in other articles. You can find these articles at the main website, under the Willpower and Self Discipline articles, and also under the inner strength category, here at this blog.

For more detailed information, exercises and instructions, I would recommend that you read the book Willpower and Self Discipline, which you can find at this website.

With just some training, you will start to see results. You will begin to finish what you start doing.