Do you know what emotional detachment is?
Emotional detachment is usually associated with indifference, staying away from people, or stifling your emotions due to the fear that you might get hurt. This is the negative side.
Here, I am talking about what I call, “positive emotional detachment”.
This attitude can be helpful in many situations:
- This kind of emotional detachment can help you maintain a state of calmness and self-control when handling your daily affairs of life and in your interactions with people.
- It can help you avoid dwelling on distressing or unpleasant events from your past and reliving them in your mind over and again.
- It helps you stop dwelling on worries and current problems.
- It also helps you avoid becoming agitated by what people say or do, and by circumstances and events.
Emotional detachment is useful for people, who live ordinary life, for people who are after a career, and for people on the paths of self-improvement, spiritual growth or meditation.
Emotional detachment is a skill that can be learned, and is important for showing more common sense, better judgment, better mental focus, and living a happier life.
Developing emotional detachment, the positive kind, does not make you an indifferent person. You can be loving, happy, compassionate, and at the same time exercise inner detachment.
Emotional detachment means letting go, letting the past go and focusing more on the present. It means stop taking things too personally, and looking at life in a more relaxed and open manner.
When you choose to let go of negative past events, not to obsess yourself with fears and worries, and to display emotional detachment toward them, you choose happiness and peace.
Attaining a certain measure of positive emotional detachment is most useful, however, this requires some training and some effort, like every other skill.
“Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.”
– Melody Beattie
“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”
– Leo Buscaglia
“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”
– Steve Maraboli