By Remez Sasson
Do you make New Year resolutions?
Does the beginning of a new year make you think about your life, what you have accomplished in the last year, and what you wish to do next year?
Do you feel the urge to make resolutions?
The urge to make resolutions arises also at other times, not only at the New Year, in response to certain situations or events. You may watch a movie or read a book that has a strong impact on you, and this makes you want to make changes in your life, or awaken the desire to achieve a certain goal. At these times people make resolutions, and then begin enthusiastically and with great emotions doing something about them.
The problem is that after a while the emotions calm down, enthusiasm wanes away, and they quit what they have started.
We often make resolutions and promises to act in a certain way, improve our habits or our life, behave in a particular way, study, look for a new job or a partner and so on, and we might even start acting according to our resolutions, but this goes on only for a short while. We start with much noise, but end in silence. We make resolutions enthusiastically and optimistically, but then we lose our enthusiasm and stop doing what we promised ourselves to do.
Why does this happen?
- Most resolutions are triggered by emotions and not by common sense and reason, and when it comes to action, we often find out that they are too big, require too much work, or that we do not really care about them.
- We often expect immediate results and we don’t get them we quit.
- A resolution made on the spur of the moment, triggered by emotion is often short-lived.
- Subconscious habits are strong, standing in the way of fulfilling resolutions, especially when the resolution requires change of habits.
So what should you do?
- You first need to be sure that making this resolution is good for you.
- Use your common sense and be a little detachment, and then ask yourself whether you really want to follow and fulfill this resolution.
- Start with simple resolutions, and when you can accomplish them move to greater resolutions.
- Write down your resolutions and read them every day.
You can make resolutions on the eve of the New Year, and you can make resolutions at any other times.