Do you take too personally things people say to you?
Do you feel offended by remarks, actions or behavior of other people?
Do you take every minor event too seriously, letting it limit or frighten you?
There is no need to take anything too personally! It’s just a waste of mental and emotional energy.
Often, you might have a wrong interpretation of someone’s words or behavior, due to lack of sufficient information or missing facts.
Sometimes, the offence is not real, and the so-called offender never intended to offend you at all?
Does this justify feeling offended?
Does this justify thinking over and again about what someone said yo you? The other person might not even be aware that you have been offended.
On other occasions, even if the other person did try to offend you intentionally, why accept, think, or dwell on what he or she said? It is absolutely useless and unnecessary to participate in the game of hurt feelings.
You might say that it is easier said than done. When you feel hurt, insulted and angry, you cannot sweep these feelings under the carpet. Learning how to stop taking things too personally requires some effort effort and time on your part.
You can certainly train yourself to change your attitude, and learn to react differently.
Taking things too personally and too seriously, makes life difficult, and often brings unhappiness and suffering.
When you take things too personally and too seriously, you make yourself more vulnerable to hurt feelings, anger, frustration and unhappiness. Taking things too personally is like placing a heavy load on your back.
What to do to stop taking things too personally?
The remedy is to adopt an attitude of emotional detachment. I have written a few articles about this subjects at this website:
Emotional Detachment Can Improve Your Life
You can also find detailed information, with guidance and instructions in my book,
Emotional Detachment for a better Life.
When you learn to use emotional detachment in a positive way, you will be able, in a natural and effortless way, not to take things too personally. You will also not take minor and unimportant incidents too seriously. This will make you feel free and happy.
True detachment is a skill that requires some training, and cannot be taught in a short article like this.
Lack of emotional detachment leads to attachment, to fear of letting go, and to avoiding changes.
You need a certain degree of emotional detachment, if you wish to feel free, and to improve the quality of your life.
Here are a few quotes to ponder about, and, which relate to the subject of this article.
Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don Miguel Ruiz
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside.
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.
Lewis B. Smedes
We often add to our pain and suffering by being overly sensitive, over-reacting to minor things and sometimes taking things too personally.
Dalai LamaAbout the Author
Remez Sasson is the founder of Success Consciousness. In his articles and books, he teaches about positive thinking and motivation, visualization, gaining inner strength and inner peace, achieving success, and about improving one’s life.