Nobody wants to feel unwanted, unworthy, or unattractive. It’s this desire to be liked by all at all times that builds up the fear of Judgement.
Let’s face it – no matter what you do, people will judge you, whether you like it or not. But don’t let the fear live inside you or dictate how you live your life. If you allow it to get to you, then you are allowing the words and perceptions of others to shape how you think about yourself.
Judgement is unavoidable, and you cannot control it, but there are ways to conquer it. Here are a few ways in which you can overcome the fear of judgement.
How to Overcome the Fear of Judgement
Set Your Priorities Right
If someone else’s judgement is enough to cloud your perception, it’s a clear sign that you are putting them ahead of you.
You need to make yourself a priority, and if you tend to take other’s perceptions too seriously, it’s time to let go.
Irrespective of what others have to say about you, you are the expert on your life and know better than anyone else what you are and what you need to do. Unless you trust in your abilities, you will never be able to acknowledge how good you are at things.
Prioritize opinions from those who matter and avoid those from people who do not matter. When you make your perception a priority, you start taking control of how you feel about yourself.
Try To Avoid Judgements
Yes, that’s right. No matter how unavoidable Judgements can be, you can at least attempt to judge yourself and others less.
Even if you do judge others, watch the language you use. You cannot expect others not to judge you if you go about doing the same to them.
One efficient way to overcome the fear of another person judging you is to be compassionate. If you are compassionate, you will understand how others feel when they are judged, and hence, you will refrain from jumping to conclusions easily. As a result, even those around you open up and try to be more compassionate.
While it’s true that we can’t control what people think, being less judgemental can free you from being judged.
Stop Taking It Personally
Sometimes, even when it’s not about us, we tend to take judgements way too seriously.
No Judgement is meant to hit you personally and the person you are. It’s often about something more superficial – like the outfit you are wearing or what you are doing at the moment.
When you succumb to judgement by others, it means that you consider the person’s opinion of you to be more valuable than yourself. It only brings down your self-esteem. Pay less attention to judgements passed at you and you will be able to overcome the constant fear of being judged.
Have Confidence in Your Abilities
When you are aware of your strengths and shortcomings, you will not be affected by what others say or think about you. Don’t give others the opportunity to strip you of your individuality.
As adults, we often worry about how we appear in front of others and start covering up to avoid Judgements. But people will judge anyway, and somewhere along the way, we lose ourselves.
Being aware of your abilities and vulnerabilities makes anyone else’s judgement irrelevant. Resist letting others define you. Once you come to terms with how you feel about yourself, you can work on the problem areas without any pressure or fear.
Watch Out For Your Inner Critic
Remember the little voice in your head? Well, we are all guilty of judging ourselves at some point in time. While sometimes it can be constructive criticism that helps you move forward, at other times, it can just be a constant fear or self- doubt.
Negative thoughts can creep up on you and fill you with fear and reduce productivity. Only when you can control the negative thoughts can you improve how you feel about yourself. When you shift your mind towards more positive and optimistic thoughts, no judgement from others or yourself can cloud your mind.
Judgement is unavoidable, and it’s not in our hands. But what we can do is steer clear of any negativity and be more compassionate about anything we do.
Everyone goes through the fear of judgement, but avoiding it will not help. By following some of these ways, you can overcome the ghost of judgement that haunts you. So the next time you find someone passing a judgement on you, don’t over analyse it. Instead, reflect on what value the judgement holds for you, and you are good to go.
About the Author
Nisha is passionate about writing and loves to share her thoughts with the world. She has written many articles on yoga, fitness, wellness, remedies, and beauty. She keeps herself updated by going through interesting blogs every day. This fuels her passion and motivates her to write appealing and engaging articles. She is a regular contributor to StyleCraze.com and a few other websites.
Imagine how free, calm and happy you would be, if you could stop getting upset by what people say or do, let go of negative thoughts and emotions, and avoid taking things personally.