Is It Possible to Be Calm and Detached, but also Active and Energetic?

Standing in Line

In my book, ‘Emotional Detachment for a Better Life’, I brought up an example of expressing detachment when standing in line, and someone barges in, and goes to the front of the line. In this example, I suggested to endeavor to stay calm and not to get irritated. A reader, raised concern that if we … Continue Reading…

Are You Happy Now, at This Very Moment?

Are You Happy?

Are you happy?

Are you happy now, at this very moment?

If you are unhappy, what is keeping your from experiencing happiness?

How much happiness do you experience in your daily life, versus unhappiness?

Someone tells you a nasty thing, and this make you feel unhappy for the rest of the day, with thoughts and feelings of anger filling your mind all day long.

You wake up late, and therefore, have to hurry to work, skipping your breakfast and the morning paper. How do you feel, stressed and angry with yourself?

You want to do something, but it does not work out. Do you feel frustrated?

There are a lot of small and insignificant things happening every day. If you choose to take them personally, you invite unhappiness into your life.

Do all these small events, situations, and plans that don’t work out, really important? Will you still remember them next week?

Is it really important what this or that person said or did? Why take everything too personally, and become unhappy as a result?

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Is It Necessary to Control Anger?

Angry Monkey

Is it necessary to control anger? The answer is no! Controlling anger is not the best option.

Confused? I will make this clearer.

When you are angry, and you try to control the anger, one or more things might happen:

You will bottle up your anger, which is very unhealthy.

You will fight your anger, which means that you will focus your attention on it, trying to restrain it. However, what you focus on grows, so that though you try to control your anger, you get the opposite result. Focus your attention on controlling anger leads to inner fight, more attention paid to the anger, and consequently, more anger and frustration.

Anger is best controlled indirectly.

There are several things that you can do to avoid getting angry, or if you get angry, not let the anger grow. I have provided a few simple tips in my articles, but they don’t focus directly on controlling the anger. These tips can help you calm down, and they can help you prevent anger from culminating. You can use them in the various situations you encounter in your day-to-day life.

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Acceptance Leads to Inner Peace

Inner Peace

There are certain things we can change in our life, but there are also things that we cannot change. If we keep worrying about them we lose our peace, but if we accept them, they stop being important, and we stop worrying about them. What we cannot change and cannot influence no matter what, should not be of concern to us.

People tend to focus and think about things which they have no control over. Why worry about something that worry will not change? Why care about what other people think of us, when we are not even sure what they are thinking about? Why worry about the weather, if we cannot change it? Why worry and feel concerned about other people actions, about which we have no control?

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The Journey to Inner Peace and the Noise Around Us

There is so much constant noise around us caused by people talking, the TV and radio screaming, music, people using their cellular phones, cars and other sources of noise. Inner Peace

There are so many things that attract and distract our attention, taking a lot of our time, energy and attention, leading to tiredness and exhaustion. All this leads people to desire some peace and quiet, but though it might look strange, people often avoid quietude, and dread a quiet environment, preferring the noise, the constant activity, and hustle and bustle of daily life. They do their best to avoid any moments of quietude, of being with themselves, feeling uneasy in such situations.

Many people prefer to be in the company of other people most of the time. When alone, they want to watch the TV or listen to the radio. They just can’t bear to be alone with their thoughts. They need to hear people talking, and they need to talk.

Do you, too, behave in this way? Are you always busy listening to the news, reading the papers, paying attention to what people say about you, so much so that you have eventually failed to enjoy a few quiet moments with yourself?

Focusing your attention, mind and senses on the outside, alienates you from your inner self, from the most important part of you. This leads to stress, tension, resentment and unhappiness. You are more than your physical, more than your personality, and you are starving this inner part in you when you constantly seek noise, and seek to engage your mind and senses in what is going around you. This makes you forget your true needs and your true essence.

Cultivating inner peace doesn’t living a boring uninteresting life. It doesn’t mean lack of interest in the external world and it doesn’t mean becoming less alive, less creative and less adventurous. On the contrary, you become happier, more aware, more alive. You can do anything you did before, but with a new perspective, new and improved viewpoint.

If you wish to reduce the stress, the strain and unhappiness in your live you need to cultivate inner peace.

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Inner Peace Brings Inner Joy

Are you afraid of inner peace? This might seem a strange question, but since few really know what inner peace is, and people fear the unknown, this is not a strange question at all.

Do you think that if you attain inner peace your life would become boring, especially if you love thrill and action? No, your life won’t become boring!

Inner peace is not a passive condition, and does not require non-action and no activity. You can live a life full of activity, interact with people, have fun, travel, work, and do things, while at the same time experiencing inner peace. True inner peace is not dependent on external conditions or situations, and is a healthy and much desired condition. Actually, inner peace will fill your life with inner joy and happiness.

What is inner peace?

It is a state of mental and emotional calmness and equanimity, in which the incessant chatter of the mind stops or almost stops. When the mind gets quiet, a great sense of happiness arises, independent of external conditions. You don’t experience inner peace only while meditating or in condition of trance, but while you are fully awake and active. Actually, your five senses and mind become even sharper.

Some people don’t believe that this state can be attained. How do they know? Have they tried?

Why be afraid of inner peace? You don’t have to live in an ashram or in a cave. You can go on living your life, but with a new and different inner condition and attitude.

You can learn to live within inner peace here and now, even if there is much noise and activity in your life. Are you willing to make the necessary effort?

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