A Better Life Starts in the Mind

By Remez Sasson

It is difficult to stay positive, when you lose your job and lose your money. At such a time, it is so easy to fall prey to negative thinking and imagining more disasters. Yet, it is at this time that positive thinking becomes so important.

If you let your thoughts become negative, if you feel despair, will this help you in any way? Absolutely not! You may say that the world conditions have changed and you can do nothing about it. You may say you are too old, or too inexperienced to get a new job, and that new jobs are sparse and hard to get. All this might be true, but there have always people who became successful even in difficult times.

You limit yourself by your thoughts, ideas and beliefs. Thoughts can be like shackles, tying you to the ground, and they can be like wings, taking you far away. It is your choice. A better life starts in the mind.

You might not be able to change you circumstances and the world around you, but you can change your inner, mental world. You can choose your thoughts, you can refuse to feel pity for yourself and picture problems and disasters, and you can fill your mind with positive thoughts and mental images.

All changes start in the mind, and you therefore need to change the way you think in order to improve your life. If you keep thinking about your current situation, of having no job and no money, you will get more despondent and unhappy and see more problems, because you focus on them, and do nothing to get out of this situation.

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Positive Thinking in Difficult Times

By Remez Sasson

Positive ThinkingIt is rather easier to feel positive when everything goes well, but real positive thinking is revealed when you can maintain it difficult times. It is then that you need it most.

In difficult times, when there are problems and the economic condition is tough, it is so easy to get into negative thinking and self-pity, and be sucked into a vicious circle of worries, fears and the expectation of more problems, lack of money or poverty.

You may read books and articles on positive thinking, and believe that you are positive, but when difficulties and rough times appear, you just forget everything and focus on the problems and difficulties, instead of believing in yourself, looking for solutions and seeking and seizing opportunities.

If you have no job, no money and the future looks bleak you might:

  • Indulge in self-pity and feel bad and helpless.
  • Indulge in worries and fears and expect more problems.
  • Become resentful and angry at the world and at successful people.
  • Be sad and focus on your problems.

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Negative Thinking and Failure

By Remez Sasson

Negative thinking is an obstacle to happiness, improvement and success. It causes laziness, low self-esteem and unhappiness, and is the number one reason for failure.

In her book, Slimming Starts in the Mind, Dorina Sasson addresses the problem of negative thinking, and provides solutions and advice on how to substitute negative thinking with positive thinking. Here is an excerpt from her book, where she writes about negative thinking and failure:

Negative thinking anticipates failure

I am sure that you are familiar with the term “Negative thinking”. It is a mental attitude of dwelling on negative thoughts, and letting fear, lack and worries run your life.

People who are prone to negative thinking use phrases such as:
· Nothing comes easy in life.
· It is too good to be true.
· This good cannot last long, something will eventually go wrong.

· I will apply for a better position, but I have no chance of getting it.
· Why bother, it’s in my genes to fail.
· I am not talented enough to win this scholarship.

· I would never be able to afford myself a trip to Paris.
· Living in a fancy house will always be just a dream.
· I may as well get used to what I have, because it won’t get any better.

If you anticipate misfortune, failure and disappointment, you will most probably refrain from taking any initiative and action, in order to avoid possible negative results. However, if you choose to be passive and take no action, you deprive yourself the chance of gaining success.

The tendency to negative thinking is not something one is born with; it is usually acquired from a negatively oriented environment, and is often transferred on from parents to children. Luckily, through awareness and training, one can learn to think in a positive manner, and consider failure, as a temporary step on the ladder to success.

Why Positive Thinking Is Not Working

By Remez Sasson

People often ask me why positive thinking does not work for them. Here is an email message I have received recently:

“I’ve been trying this whole positive thinking thing for about 2 years now with no results. Things actually seen to be getting worse. I’m up to my neck in debt and my health isn’t the greatest. I watched “The secret” and thought, “wow”, but after a while of really trying to change my thought patterns, I had to give up on it.”

Why does this happen?

Like everything in life, positive thinking requires constant training. You need to try again and again until you succeed. Rarely things change overnight.

Usually, when people first hear about positive thinking and how it can change their lives, they get excited and elated, but if they don’t see immediate results, they often get disappointed and discouraged and lose any faith in positive thinking.

To make it work for you, you need to make it your predominant mental attitude, and not something you think about only now and then. It is not enough to be positive for a few minutes and negative for the rest of the day.

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Are You a Victim of Negative Thinking?

By Remez Sasson

Are you a victim of negative thinking? Do you feel upset, down, disappointed or frustrated? Do you find yourself thinking on problems, failure, obstacles or bad health? Do you worry a lot?

If you let negative thoughts invade into your mind, you are actually surrendering your mastery over your life. You are letting these negative thoughts rule your life. Just consider how much time and energy you spend on worries, fears or anxiety! It is just wasted time and energy.

If you do nothing to prevent negative thinking, its power over you will grow, which means that you will expect failure and problems, and therefore will not try to improve your life.

The best way to prevent negative thinking is to focus on its opposite, on positive thinking. Don’t fight your negative thoughts, because this means you will focus on them, making them stronger. Better focus on solutions, on finding a way out, on positive mental images and on doing things and taking action.

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