The term self improvement is a bit misleading and is sometimes erroneously interrupted. What do you really improve? You don’t improve your “self” and you don’t improve your “spirit”. You learn to develop certain skills that can help you go through life. You learn to look at things from a different, broader viewpoint, and you learn to forego limiting thoughts and habits.
You don’t improve something that does not exist in you. You improve and develop some skills that are already in you, but are weak, in a dormant state, or negatively expressed.
Self improvement is actually not “Improving yourself”, so much as changing your point of view, changing the way you look at yourself and the world, and strengthening and developing certain skills.
Self improvement is about developing:
- Stronger willpower.
- Better self discipline.
- Better concentration.
- Some degree of emotional and mental detachment.
- More patience.
- More tolerance.
- Getting rid of negative or weakening habits and developing new ones.
- Learning to think more positively.
- Learning to be more kind and loving.
This is a partial list of the aims of self improvement.
Improvement requires work
The important point to remember is that everything worthwhile in life needs some effort and time to gain. There is no instant improvement or development of any skill. There are books and programs that promise immediate success, and there are many who buy them, thinking that these books or programs will immediately change their life. People expect and look for some kind of a miracle to change their life instantly, and often get disappointed when this does not happen.
There are many you buy books, but never read them. Some start practicing a certain technique or program and then stop after a short while. In order to get results from self improvement books, programs and techniques you need to practice day after day. You have to study, work and train yourself the same way if you wanted to be a doctor, a pilot, an engineer or an Olympic athlete. This is something most people won’t do, because they consider it too much work.
Some might ask, “Will my life improve, if I practice some “self improvement” techniques?” Anything you do to develop positive habits and skills will help you handle your life and circumstances in a better and more successful way.
Sometimes, when people finally decide to be more practical then just reading a book and expecting miracles, they find that there are obstacles on their path, and if they don’t posses enough inner strength, they might drop the whole idea.
When starting anything new, one often becomes more aware of problems and obstacles. They are not new. They were there all the time, but because you want to make changes you become more aware of them. Don’t let them daunt your spirit. If you continue, they will get weaker in time, and you will be able to ignore them and overcome them.
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