Work, brings together people of different temperament, character, and behavior, and this often, causes friction, resentment and stress.
People spend hours at work every day, but often, the work causes stress, exhaustion and unhappiness.
- Sometimes, the boss is too demanding.
- Colleagues might be rude.
- There might be too much stress due to too much work.
- The working conditions might not be comfortable.
- The job might be boring.
- There could be competition or envy between the workers.
- The customers might be too demanding or criticizing.
- They might feel there are utilized and underpaid.
These are some of the reasons, why most people feel stress at work or are unhappy about it.
This why people eagerly wait for their vacation. The vacation provides a way to get out of the daily grind and find some peace.
The good news is that you do not have to wait for your vacation. You can learn to stay calm and peaceful and enjoy every moment, right where you are. A peaceful life, unaffected by the environment starts inside you in your mind, and does not need to depend on external conditions
By all means go on a vacation, travel and enjoy the time away from your work. This is good, healthy and desirable. However, unless you are a millionaire, you cannot do it too often.
You need once in a while, get out of your head and your life all the stress and competition of work, and relax, but what can you do if you cannot take a vacation every now and then?
Maybe you cannot always go on a vacation to get some mental quiet and peace, but you can learn to enjoy inner quietude while working. You can make your mind quiet and reduce stress, even while working in a stressful environment.
Now, you probably wonder how you can do that. I am not going to talk here about meditation, though this is one of the best techniques for gaining peace of mind.
What I want to do is to suggest a few simple tips to enjoy a sense of inner peace at your workplace, no matter what are the conditions at work.
Tips for Being Peaceful and Avoiding Stress at Work
I would like to suggest a few things you can do to reduce stress at work, enjoy the time you spend at work, and maintain good relations with your boss, colleagues or customers.
You will need to spend some effort and time to get these tips working for you. You might not succeed at the first attempts, but if you keep following these tips earnestly, you will gradually begin to experience peace of mind.
1. Talk Calmly
If the people you meet at work speak in a loud voice, are impolite and stressed, you will probably react and behave accordingly. You will respond by raising your voice and getting stressed and tense.
However, if you wait a few seconds before responding, and refuse to react instinctively, things would be different. It would then be easier to stay calm, and talk and react peacefully.
If you can manage to stay peaceful, the people around you would instinctively react accordingly, and be less stressful and more calm.
In this way, you become a leading power, no matter what is your position at work.
2. Don’t Speak in a Loud Voice
If you catch yourself shouting or speaking in a loud voice, immediately lower it.
Talk in a medium pitch voice, not too loud or too low, and don’t let the loudness or pitch of other people’s voices influence yours.
3. Greet the People You Meet at Work
Saying good morning with a smile, greeting someone for his or her good work, and congratulating your colleagues and boss on their birthday, contribute to better relationship and less stress at work.
4. Take a Few, Slow, Deep Breaths
Whenever you feel tension or anger building in you, take a few deep slow breaths before you talk or react.
5. Repeat Relaxing Affirmations
Each day, before you enter your workplace, repeat several times the following affirmations, with feeling, faith and attention:
- “My mind is peaceful throughout the whole day.”
- “I radiate peace around me.”
- “I talk peacefully, politely and with a smile.”
- “I choose to act and react peacefully.”
6. Use Positive Words
7. Be polite
Always be polite to people. Being rude or inconsiderate will result in a similar behavior, which cam aggravate the situation.
Even if people are rude and impolite to you, stay polite. This is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, you show them that they cannot affect your state of mind and your feelings. You might even be surprised to see that they change their behavior and feel bad for being impolite.
8. Visualize a Place Where You Would Love to Be
Several times during your workday find a quiet place. It may be at your desk, or if it is not quiet enough there, it can be at the bathroom, an empty room or some other quiet spot.
For several moments, visualize a beautiful location that you love, or some event that made you happy. Feel as if you are there now, and enjoy the feelings that rise within you.
Make the mental image and feelings as real as you can and enjoy them for a few moments. It is like going for a short vacation. You will feel better and more calm afterwards.
9. Focus on What You Are Doing
While working, focus on what you are doing. Put there your full attention. This will keep your mind off disturbing thoughts.
10. Do not Overthink
Overthinking creates worries and lack of peace, and can magnify unpleasant feeling. Don’t waste your time and energy analyzing and thinking about people’s motives and behavior and why they said this or that.
11. Take a Few Deep Breaths
Before speaking with someone whom you dislike or fear, or someone who makes you feel tense or angry, take a few deep breaths, and then visualize the two of you conversing peacefully and harmoniously.
12. Don’t Take Things Personally
Sometimes, your boss or colleagues might have problems at home, a problem with their cars, they did not get enough sleep, or they might have some personal problems. This might make them grumpy, unpleasant and impolite. This behavior has nothing to do with you, and you should not take this personally.
In these circumstance just stay calm, and if possible keep an emotional distance from them until they calm down.
13. Not All Tasks Are Pleasant
Work is work, and might not always be pleasant. There might be tasks we do not like. This is part of the job and we have to accept it. Accepting an unpleasant task and doing it despite our inner resistance, contributes to better relations and less stress, anger and resentment.
14. Be Friendly and Considerate
Be friendly and considerate toward all people. Often, we get treated by others in the same way as we treat them. Politeness, consideration and respect generate similar reactions.
These are a few ways to help you maintain a state of inner peace and avoid stress at work. You can find more ways and more guidance about this important topic in the book Inner Peace in the Busy Daily Life.
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