How to be Charismatic? Do you wish to be a charismatic person? Is there a way to build up this skill?
It is a fact that most people want to be liked. Some people are easily liked, and others, try to make a good impression, but might get the opposite results.
Most people wish to look charismatic and become popular. This does not always work out, due to low self-esteem and lack of confidence, or being too aggressive and lacking tact.
Being charismatic and easily liked are important in job interviews, in sales, dealing with people, and also in friendships and relationships.
Tips on How to Be Charismatic and Popular
Here are a few simple and easy to carry out tips on how to be more charismatic and popular.
1. Your posture
Pay attention to the way you carry your body. Don’t stoop, shuffle or look listless. Keep your back straight when you walk and when you sit down, but don’t overdo it, otherwise it will look artificial.
People look with respect at people who maintain a good body posture.
2. Eye contact
Don’t be afraid of eye contact when talking, but don’t overdo it, as this might be interrupted as rudeness.
“Few things impair charisma more than bad eye contact and few things gain you charisma points more than improving your eye contact.” – Olivia Fox Cabane from ‘The Charisma Myth’.
3. Facial expressions
Be aware of your facial expressions. Smile and keep a calm and confident facial expression.
Don’t talk too fast or too slow.
Speak to the point. People want to know exactly what you are talking about, otherwise they will get bored quickly.
Keep your voice quiet, but clear. Apart from having a relaxing influence on the people you are talking with, Talking quietly requires people to pay more attention to what you are saying, so they can hear you.
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Even if you don’t agree with what someone says, don’t retort in anger. Stay calm, patient and tolerant, and people will respect you more.
5. How to dress
Being well dressed gives you more points in your favor in meetings and interviews. Your clothes do not have to be expensive. They should well fit your physique, and look nice on you.
6. Be a good listener
Being a good listener makes you more popular, and encourages people to talk about topics they wouldn’t usually share with others.
Learning to listen is a quality that can make you more popular. Listening is also a great way to learn new things.
Read about The Benefits of Being a Good Listener.
7. Open body language
Crossing your hands or legs are signs that you are closing yourself, which tends to alienate people from you. Keeping an open body language, without crossing hands or feet, encourages people to open to you.
8. Showing interest
If you show interest in people they will like you more. It is like pampering their ego.
Ask questions, show real interest, and listen to what people say.
Show your interest by nodding your head, looking at the people you are talking with, and smiling when appropriate.
9. Self image
Adopt a positive and confident self image. Feel that you deserve to be loved and happy.
10.Feel good and confident about yourself
If you feel good about yourself you will be more confident, and you would express yourself and your ideas more confidently.
11. Watch people who are charismatic
If you see people who seem charismatic to you, look at what they wear, how they carry their body, how they talk, and how they behave. You can learn a lot from them.
These could be real people that you come across at work, on the street in shops, meetings or anywhere else. Those could also be actors you see in movies or on the TV screen.
- Charismatic people possess high self-esteem.
- People who are self-confident show more charisma.
- Being more assertive and courageous makes one look more charismatic.
- Charismatic leaders possess high self esteem and confidence.
- Charismatic people make people feel comfortable and feel good in their presence.
What Does Charismatic Mean?
How to define ‘charismatic’?
Here are are few definition:
Wikipedia – “Charisma is compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others.”
Collins dictionary says – “A charismatic person attracts, influences, and inspires people by their personal qualities.”
Merriam Webster defines charisma as – “personal magic of leadership arousing special popular loyalty or enthusiasm.” and also as – “a special magnetic charm or appeal.”
Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire. – Dale Carnegie